Dirty Pretty Things

Preface ~ This is likely to be an unpopular opinion *especially because I do identify as a submissive* and that's truly okay. There is a lot of varying opinions on everything in this lifestyle and it doesn't mean any of us are right or wrong. There is a lot of gray area, and this is only my perspective. I'm not trying to piss you off but tomorrow I may try haha. ?

 The current trend I am repeatedly seeing is how many people are focused on what a gift submission is. I just dont comprehend it in this way. I guess my brain works differently. But if we see submission as a "gift," then why don't we see dominance as a "gift", too? I don't like the "gift" analogy. It just seems wrong to me. Why are we even keeping track of if someone has "earned" us? Maybe we haven't "earned" them? Should we keep a tally? /sarcasm. 

This concept just bothers me. Im not sure calling submission -a gift- is appropriate. A gift is defined in the dictionary as a thing willingly given to someone without payment. But in bdsm context, we do expect payment. We expect our partner to hold up their end of our negotiations and be dominant. We expect them to take control, to know whats best for us.and to take care of all our needs. That's a pretty huge payment, isn't it. If a Dom does not give you time, effort, attention, orgasms, security etc then you are unlikely to keep submitting to him. Why would you? Noone blindly gifts submission without expectations and a return of the investment. 

We could say that dominance needs to be earned, too. Just like submission. Why is there a differentiation? Neither side should have more importance, in my opinion. Both are essential. Reciprocity. Neither dominance nor submission can happen successfully without the other. That's why it's an exchange. Which absolutely makes sense. Give & take. Push & pull. Cooperation & compromise.

Discussion is encouraged after my bubble bath ?.

My creative side is at peace. I've been messing around with digital art & AI this week, and I am sooo addicted. I am a gurl that wants to be creative but i struggle to express myself. Well not anymore! So this is how it works.  Basically, you feed text prompts into the AI image generator and it spits out your creations. Like magic! (This is the only time I will endorse spitting). Sounds easy amirite? Kinda yeah but kinda not.

The more defined and specific your words are, the better your creation is. A full paragraph is the best and most advanced method they say. I'm mostly using keywords lol. At least 60% of what I render goes in the virtual trash. Today, I was exploring with ambiance type words like grunge, rock, whimsical, Victorian etc. To see the different ways they effect the creation. Then you can adjust the weight of your words too. I've done sea turtles to vampires to high heel shoes to pugs. You can literally create anything from your imagination!! And then refine your text and improve it even more. You have to be patient though because AI likes to be unstable and glitch out if you're too confusing. Or it's a bad word. Or just cuz. I've been using NightCafe Creator and I love the daily contests to challenge myself.
You can even order a print of your art rendering right there in high resolution! 
I'm just so excited and enthusiastic about this and hopping all around. It's so much fun and so satisfying. I know its only words and imagination but it still takes creativity right?

Ill post some stuff I created! Thank you for peeking ♡

P.S. if I Missed the memo on AI art and y'all already know how awesome it is....oops. 

Example: here I used the words "small adorable pug puppy sleeping on his back with tongue sticking out,  in a sweater cuddling a teddy bear, cozy, lace, browns, peaceful"

A lot of people are going through heavy things right now. I see you & I feel you & I know you're hurting. I wish I could take it away from you. Ive been emotionally drained too. Done like dinner. Is it some kind of moon or celestial thing? ? ? 

Let's do some randomness:

~ You're not alone, I promise you this. 

~ It's okay to be sad, quiet, and down. Let yourself feel it. I'm still learning this...

~ Self love baby! A fuzzy blanket, a candle, ice cream, a good book about zombies or a familiar voice on the phone. Do it ♡

~ One day this too shall pass. I feel like I'm in a bad meditation class right now lol.

I dont know what else to say. Just spreading some love your way. Pay it forward. ?

My minds a mess.  My hearts a mess. My emotions are a mess.  Does that make me messy?

Sixteen carriages drivin' away

While I watch them ride with my dreams away

To the summer sunset on a holy night

On a long back road, all the tears I fight

Happy Birthday to a close friend on the Cage ~ @ Varangian. Let's make this a Birthday post to celebrate him. Drop your birthday wishes here ♡

I confess I had other motives for my blog challenge. It wasnt so much about others defining us but it was more about finding a way to get people commenting, having conversations and sharing laughs. A way to bond the community. I wanted to think of something that would encourage people to go out of their way and comment, even on strangers blogs. I wanted it to be reciprocal.  Leave a comment, get a comment. 

These are my final thoughts:

~ Some quiet members who don't usually participate or post, came and joined in

~ Almost everyone seemed to have fun & laughs and I loved seeing that. The fuzzy feelings were everywhere. 

~ I met some new people, i hope y'all did too 

~ I've never seen so much activity! There was so many comments & notifications. It was wild!

~ I saw a lot of really nice comments and want to thank everyone that participated.  ♡

Hi?. I've been thinking a lot about self-worth lately. I always find it interesting to see how others view themselves. And then I wonder how they see me. I can't be the only one who gets curious?!

This inspired a challenge. I thought it could be a fun exercise to see how each of us impacts others in the community.

* The Define Me Challenge *

~ post this challenge in your blog

~ watch out for other challenge posts & go respond the one word you feel best describes them. 

~ you may only use one word, so choose wisely 

~ you may NOT use the same word someone has already said, be unique!

~ The responses will vary based on how well the poster knows you 

~ Different people are good at seeing different characteristics 

Define me in just one word.

Happy Birthday to a dear friend on the Cage ~ @ Amor Animus. Let's make this a Birthday post to celebrate him.  Leave a comment about a funny story, how you met,  etc.

I've always considered Valentines to be a bullshit Hallmark holiday. If you love someone,  you should appreciate them every day and not just on the 14th when you're supposed to. I have girl friends who expect a list of gifts for vday and it annoys me. A lot. That's not what it's about.  Expensive gifts doesn't mean you're loved. 

My idea of showing your love? It's wildflowers not roses. It's something colorful and unique that you tell the florist to put together cuz it reminds you of me. It's the new Lego flowers that we build together snuggled on the couch. It's a message or sweet text telling me what I mean to you. It's cooking together in the kitchen taking breaks to kiss and dance and twirl me around in your arms. It's a walk through the park holding hands while you whisper the naughty things you want to do to me later. That's special to me. 

Love isn't complicated. But people are. Say how you feel and make sure your actions reflect your words. One without the other is not meaningful.  

Whether you're alone, together or apart today ~ celebrate love ❤️. 

I've always been an overachiever. I was expected to be the best at everything and to be perfect. But no matter how well I did, it was never enough. I received honor awards in school and was consistently top of my class, but it wasn't good enough. Several times, my teachers had recommended me to advance and skip a grade, but my parents said no.

I was set up to fail from the beginning by parents with unrealistic expectations. They would never be pleased or proud of me but I didn't realize this until much later. I had no positive reinforcement or affection growing up. I didn't realize what I was missing. It was just my normal.

Maybe that's why i have such a praise kink now. Okay more than maybe. The slightest approval and recognition from Daddy sends shivers through my body and fills me with a rush of endorphins. It's like I've been starving for it my whole life. When He calls me nicknames and pet names, it gives me butterflies. When he praises me or shows affection, I'm like a flower. Slowly unfurling my delicate petals to bask in His sunshine. Daddy gives me the nourishment I've always needed to finally be the me I was meant to be.