Developing a new mindset

Where bdsm gets the ability to probe limits is trust. Where demis get attraction is trust. The connection is there. The next time I hang out with a certain friend I’m going to talk to them about the potential for demis to lean into bdsm. Be a demi long enough and you can only dream about being so intimate with someone- until bdsm! This is the same friend who I reached out to when I first realized. I think they feel about sex the same way that I felt so our conversation will be on a level we’ve barely broached before.

I’m really curious what the average age of a lifestyler is when it comes to how they’ve been exposed to the idea of demisexuality. I’m sure they’ve come up with similar words. I’ve legitimately started my own dictionary for the acronyms, this language is kinda fun to figure out.

How do I tell people that my day was just fine?

It’s the time of year when I have to see both regular and irregular family. The distant ones will be no big deal to talk to, it’s the close ones that I’m going to struggle with. I don’t know what to say when they ask me what’s new. I want to be honest, being an open book is very healing to me, but there are some boundaries I have to form when merging these worlds. I tend to ramble so I don’t necessarily trust myself to give some details but not enough for others to connect any dots. I fear that I’m going to end up lying somehow, and dishonesty is so abhorrent to me at the moment. I’m being honest with myself like never before; it goes against my new rules of life.

I blame this post-Puritan, American culture. Sexual freedom is a big no-no here. How are we to control the people if they understand their bodies? A lot of us lack the words to express these things and even fewer of us have the bravery. I’ve only had a little time to adjust myself to this world but already I’m bracing myself for public rejection. I think I can handle the conversation but not the idea that my people will pull away.

Thanks for reading.