The Culture that has been here all the time

Hey friends, it takes a wise person to admit it is time to move on. And so I now realize it is time for me to make that significant change to the final place to live and still be active (as active as I can be). Yes, the step just before you are led around and kept where others have to take complete care of you.

My wife has Dementia (Az/Aph), and keeping up with my healthcare challenges tells me it is time to sell this house and move to a single-level home in a senior citizen community where assistance and vigilance make it a better choice as I  (we) age. Still trying to figure out how to accomplish it. I still have stuff to remove; some are in a self-storage unit. Since I wasted some financial resources, it will be more of a challenge to make this move than in 2022. Find a potential community and an excellent financial plan to make it work.

Maybe there is a place like Kinatopia for Senior Citizens (LOL). I can't be too fussy, but I would like to have my small pets and be able to see green hills clearly from my windows.

The fact is I have a few plans and expectations: aside from my pets, a couple of plants, a good TV, affordable health care, and maybe a pond to sit by and watch the seasons pass.

Yes, Friends, life is the best teacher.

If you want to know if you can trust someone, sometimes the only thing to do is give them something of minor significance and see what they do.

When you do this, you will get a clue concerning trusting them with a more significant responsibility.

This technique is good to use when you hire someone; consider someone for friendship who comes on to you a little too eager to help you. Even when you raise your children.

How you handle the outcome is your choice. Start by trusting a little, then maybe trust more or dismiss them (of course, you can not treat your children as if they were friends or employees).

Having musical acts proved some musicians and singers wanted to usurp my leadership. As a supervisor, some employees wanted to undermine my authority or define their role contrary to the premises they were hired for.

A Dom/Sub relationship has many of the same aspects. Having a contract can go a long way to alleviate potential problems. And, make clear the consequences when an agreement is violated.

 . . . as they get up, "NOW WHAT?!"

I have a precancerous mole on my left arm now that must be evaluated.

Her friend, a kink-friendly vegetable, once was feared.

In the late 1700s, a large percentage of Europeans feared the tomato. A nickname for the fruit was the “poison apple” because it was thought that aristocrats got sick and died after eating them, but the truth of the matter was that wealthy Europeans used pewter plates, which were high in lead content. Google Search.

" . . .  Before the fruit made its way to the table in North America, it was classified as a deadly nightshade, a poisonous family of Solanaceae plants that contain toxins called tropane alkaloids. . . . "

 

Yes, Friend, no matter who we are, we age and eventually get old,

I see now the loneliness epidemic for older people is a worldwide phenomenon. In this culture (BDSM), I thought it would be less of an issue, but I suspect I was wrong. Loneliness as we age is indiscriminate and has become a global problem.

"Loneliness and social isolation are widespread social issues that affect people of all ages, including older people, and have been called a "loneliness epidemic". According to a 2022–2023 Meta-Gallup survey, 17% of older adults (aged 65 and older) in 142 countries and territories reported feeling very or fairly lonely, which is lower than the overall rate of almost one in four people. However, the World Health Organization (WHO) estimates that 1 in 4 older people experience social isolation, and rates are similar across all regions of the world. " From a quick Google Search

Add to it when a significant other develops a cognitive disorder like Alzheimer's, it destroys the afflicted person and anyone close to them. Financially and socially.

It isn't easy to anticipate this and its effect when you are young, but believe me, when you get caught up in it, the results are devastating. All plans for your "Golden Age" vanish like the morning mist. Family and friends avoid you because 1) it may be hard for them to witness what is happening; 2) they cannot deal with the consequences; 3) they fear they will be asked to help with the emotional and financial risks in doing so.

I behaved like a wounded animal, twisting and turning in agony, lying on the ground, trying to come to terms with what was happening because of my wife's illness. 

I finally arrived at this paramount conclusion: Since we married, my wife and I have thought of ourselves as one entity. WE ARE IN THIS TOGETHER UNTIL WHATEVER THE END WILL BE.

ONE REGRET? I SQUANDERED OUR NEST EGG IN SEARCH OF DUBIOUS SOLUTIONS TO MY LONELINESS.

After 76 years

I am not looking for a woman now, but all my wives and significant others had blue or green eyes, were slim to average in weight, petite or slightly taller, and were all-natural blondes. I don't say this indicates my type, but it says something about my preferences.

Friends,

So you thought you would like to see if you have chemistry when you texted and eventually agreed to meet, but!

What if the person you meet is not your type, and you have trouble being turned on or staying turned on? 

How would you say I am sorry Babe, but you just are not my type.

Should you or could you be diplomatic? Should you or could you be blunt? Should you, or could you let it slide and just ghost them after you part?

Yes, it is your personal preference. I am just curious about what some people think is proper or acceptable.

ADDENDUM: I am not looking for a woman now, but all my wives and significant others had blue or green eyes, were slim to average in weight, petite or slightly taller, and were all-natural blondes. I don't say this indicates my type, but it says something about my preferences.

Hey, friends, I smoked for 25 years and stopped 25 years ago. Doctors told me my body was damaged and would never completely recover from smoking.

Friends,

There is no easy cure for loneliness when your social life is crippled. Negative experience breeds at least some misanthropy, and some misanthropy leads to isolation.  Online chats can not break isolation; the only safe solution is withdrawing into a shell. The shell is a comfort zone for me. I know I will probably remain in this state even when my wife passes. Perhaps until I reach my end. It is not hopeless because hopelessness implies there is some remnant of hope (less hope). I am now totally without hope.

I do not like to say I will never talk about anything good or bad, but I have no intention of looking for someone, family, or friends to trust truly. Trust is now past tense.  I once trusted too quickly. I used to trust, but now I can not allow myself that luxury.

Don't cry for me. I am in my comfort zone and glad that I am.

Basic info Friends,

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After orgasm, men and women experience different changes in libido and sexual arousal:
Men
Men typically experience a refractory period, which is a time when they are not sexually responsive and cannot reach orgasm again. This period can last from minutes to days and usually lengthens with age. Men's sexual arousal and desire also decrease more quickly and consistently than women's. Prolactin, a hormone linked to sleepiness and sexual satisfaction, may temporarily decrease men's desire for sex by repressing dopamine, a chemical that's important for motivation and desire.
Women
Women may experience a brief refractory period or none at all. Some women may be able to return to the orgasm phase and experience multiple orgasms with further sexual stimulation. Women's orgasmic pleasure is also linked to a decrease in genital temperature after orgasm, but they may maintain their sexual arousal and desire. Women also typically release more oxytocin than men during orgasm, which is a hormone that can help relieve pain and promote feelings of connection

I thought You Should Know.