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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
10 months ago. Sunday, April 6, 2025 at 12:33 PM

I have tried for several years to get a helper to help me as I cared for my wife with ADA and wasted a good deal of money in my attempt. I did have one FWB who I met on this site who didn't work out, but in retrospect, maybe it could have if I knew how to negotiate exactly what her purpose would have been and what she would not be expected to do. My ignorance was probably the main reason for the experiment not working.  So since the year has passed and I did not find a woman to replace her, this is my latest Idea.

Have a live-in maid: Provide room and board in exchange for help. She would not be a nurse for my wife I will remain my wife's nurse. She may or may not be a FWB, it would either develop or not. 

What was given up in the first try was that the State would have provided healthcare, food stamps, and even a salary (which all I could offer was a small allowance).

So. I will see if I can find a maid then.

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