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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
9 months ago. Sunday, May 4, 2025 at 2:31 PM

Of course, when we are just experiencing the world for the first time, we are almost constantly engaged with something new.

The thrill can be challenging to maintain, and sometimes it has some risk aspects.

The first time I saw the vastness of the ocean, it took my breath away. Even a large body of water like a bay or lake had a thrill about it.  Seeing the wide open spaces of the Midwest, the deserts of the West, and the mountains (especially the European Alps) fixed memories that seem as if they happened only yesterday.

Considering that humans as a whole like some level of exploration (maybe linked to the early days of human survival?), even if it is now a vacation, sheds some insight into relationships with the unknown. Exploration is in our DNA.

The religions I experienced reduce our relationships to forms of monogamy, even though I see much of that is a charade and hypocritical. Yes, a long-term relationship with one other person has many benefits and comforts, yet the yearning for change, variety, and newness often overrules this relationship.

Here in the BDSM world in general, some of the freer aspects of human nature can be experienced, artificial constraints and restrictions dropped in favor of what is normal and real for we humans.

Beyond this blog post is a vast body of information about the variety of and the possibilities of all sexual and platonic relationships between people. Explore web pages and the books that can enlighten you.


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