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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
8 months ago. Monday, May 26, 2025 at 11:00 AM

I am seventy-seven years old and stressed to the point that I feel weaker and less resilient. I can let idealism and nihilism haunt me even though they serve no purpose. On my better days, I remain optimistic that I will connect to a woman who would complement me, encourage me, and love me as my wife once did.

When a young man, I was adventurous and sought to explore the world and have a woman who was a soul mate along with me. Some of this dream was realized, yet like many dreams, fantasy is a big part of the description. Most of the dreams faded into the past, unfulfilled.

If I had some financial ability, I would move to a place like Tasmania. In my mind, it offers so many interesting things. A culture different yet familiar, and the view of the Southern Cross as well. A whole new mindset to adopt. Rekindle the fires of love within me.

When I wake each morning I see that where I live is nothing like the land I grew up in and loved for over seventy years. I already feel ostracized and mortified by the culture I live in, as the politics have transformed all my optimism that I once had into dread and sadness. (photo commons)


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