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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
6 months ago. Monday, July 14, 2025 at 4:37 PM

I am still consumed by my caregiving for my wife, but she is either in a wheelchair or on the sofa bed. Wake her, prepare food, feed her, change her, and get her back on the sofa bed. Endless cycle that I keep doing because I love her. I can not tell if she loves me or not, however.

Seeking help can be overwhelming, and changes to healthcare in this country make it even more complicated. Even my Veterans' Benefits seem to be under threat, so when the time comes, I do not believe there is any hope for my old-age care.

I will be 78 in two weeks. Who wants an old man on their hands anyway?

Believe it or not, I am still able to care for my wife, our home, and our cat and dog, but joy has all but ebbed away completely.

Having kinky desires and a strong libido is a curse since I do not have any chance for a social life. No soothing touch. No warm embrace. No sexual release or satisfaction. (To masturbate is a hollow shadow for real intimacy I hate it)

I like the dialogue in the British TV shows that I watch over and over, when a character goes out looking for something and returns, and when asked, did he or she have success, and they respond, "No joy" when they return without success. pixabay.com


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