A man desires a woman, or a woman desires a man. Does it matter? I say NO!
Within us is the desire for the other, and it can not be beaten out, ruled out, forbidden, or hidden. In this community, I extend my desire description to include and appreciate the individual makeup we each have—multiple, monogamous, vanilla, gay, bi, or full-blown experience with BDSM.
Love is real. Love is an action word. Love manifests itself in a kaleidoscope of emotions and variations. I will admit that in my approximately 70 years of sexual experimentation, disappointment, and joy, I am still learning and willing to engage in the physical erotic love and keep my romantic love at the same time.
I will be mild and say, as far as I can tell, most religions hide reality and practice hypocrisy. When revealed, people feel shocked, ashamed, and dismayed (at least they fake the response).
I am sad for people who deny themself the pleasures and joys of love, erotic and romantic, and any such combination, from the chicken coop, where I asked questions of myself at five years old, to the annual church bazaar, where I noticed all the girls flocking around the younger, new priest, hanging out. It doesn't require a genius to read the writing on the wall of life.
