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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
5 months ago. Thursday, September 4, 2025 at 10:50 PM

On my TV, a program popped up that featured music videos from the 80s. I began to watch one after the other, and I steadily sank deeper into melancholy quicksand. Those days were filled with challenges and successes, broken hearts, aches, and missed opportunities, which echoed in my mind. Devo's "Whip It," I Think I'm Turning Japanese, "Video Killed the Radio Star," "Everyone Wants to Rule the World," and "I Love Rock'n'Roll" were among the songs that made me so sad. 

I glanced at my wife sleeping on the sofa, knowing her mind can not recall these songs and the times we walked on a beach or a boardwalk, maybe took a winter ride as songs played. Hanging on the wall, my guitars are silent now. Recordings and photos were tucked away as if on another planet. All this caused an ache in my heart that refuses to go away. 

Yes, the big mistake is that I watched and listened, and now I wrestle with all these memories alone in the dark, with a slim chance I will ever find happiness once more.

 

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