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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
6 days ago. Saturday, April 4, 2026 at 11:37 AM

I was always creative and even adventurous, but fought being introverted and, like many people, had events in my childhood that did not help my emotional balance. Through the years of my struggles with depression, I discovered it can be a creative tool, and I learned that famous people had the same experience.

Many famous historical and modern figures have openly struggled with profound melancholy or depression, often using it to fuel their creativity, including U.S. President Abraham Lincoln, author Virginia Woolf, and artist Vincent van Gogh. Other notable figures include Winston Churchill, who famously termed his depression his "black dog", and modern celebrities like Kristen Bell and Lady Gaga, who openly discuss their battles with mental health. 

In my life, I do not truly know what "normal" is or whether I have even met a "normal" person. I get joy from my creativity that rivals the joy I have experienced in a solid, loving relationship, even when we were both flawed.

No matter who we are or where we are, we begin each morning anew. We wake and say, "Hey, I am still alive."

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