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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
2 days ago. Sunday, May 24, 2026 at 12:49 PM

Or is it that I must be practical?

Normal humans who are honest admit they need regular sexual satisfaction. I admit that. It has been unreasonably long to not have a lover.

In my life, I have had long-term relationships; the most recent was forty years. I also had a number of short-term relationships. I suppose I must be real. I am pretty fit for my age and can have a quality sex life right now. Can it become a long-term relationship? That is a relative term for a man my age.

It would be absolutely fine to just have lovers for short periods, maybe just a day or two. I have had those in the past. We are all grown-ups here, aren't we? Bottom line, it is healthy to have regular sexual fulfillment.

Friend with benefits is what the modern world now calls it. Yes. That actually has been around a long time because normal people need regular sex. Men and women have been having sex since the first man and first woman.

Yes, I get turned on.


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