Dear Every One,
I am not one for rash conclusions so this simply is a reflection of my experience as it is currently.
The Subculture BDSM and especially for me M/S presents a vast arrangement of individuals from extremely experienced to just interested yet one thing is clear there is no bachelor's Degree in how and what to do and many of us are groping in the dark. That is the epitome of freedom and liberty. Freedom to experiment test out what you are drawn to and what the aversions are and Liberty to enjoy your uniqueness without negatively affecting another. In many technical schools I attended and graduated as well as College so often the term arose "But this is how it is in the real world." Or how it is done etc.. How many ways are there to feed your Parakeet, then consider how many ways there are to go on an adventure. Hmmm. Humans have things in common and so do subcultures that is how we identify one another but there is no conformity to the non-conformist without risking violating the very principle the title suggests. Back to us and in particular Master Slave or Dominant one and Submissive one.
If you don't know something interact and take notes to teach each other to test the limits (have a safety code word please). Two main areas of interest serving as a sub and the aspect of Pleasure Slave (Not my words I borrowed them from the book with the same name). If the dom has a procedure for housework and the sub is comfortable with it go for it. The realm of erotica has to be "a work in progress" in the best use of my brain and experience. It will evolve as it should, please Dom and Sub, and blossom as it grows if it becomes stagnant it isn't any different than the millions of coupes out there who say, "My significant other doesn't excite me anymore." I need a new spouse. Then time goes by and the whole thing repeats. Do Doms and Subs run their course also yes? Many times, but in the auspices I have observed this is governed with less or no formal contract. Pack up your tent and then move to the next oasis is perfectly fine unless there is "Palimony".
The definitions of heterosexual, bi, gay monogamous, polygamous, and so on only apply when both Dom and Sum agree on the term that describes their relationship. If I get my chance I may call it a visiting kissing cousin, or our experiment, or our purely romantic Love, whatever, (my ill but living wife has complicated things because while her disease has made her asexual, I honor my commitment to take care of her and no woman I came close to enjoying as a friend with benefits so far accepts this condition).
Write your own story but make it exciting and refreshingly creative and please keep out jealousy and reprisal. I still have a love for all my exes two wives and several Lovers I have room for more but scammers need not apply.