Hello, my friends,
When does foreplay begin? First, this is all in my opinion based on experience. Foreplay is more than half of the excitement and pleasure a man and woman can experience in expressing their love for each other (yes I am a heterosexual) and when young, both men and women (from my experience ) rush through it. It is like it is as if it was just a way to get to an orgasm as quickly as possible. If you and your partner are ever going to arrive at orgasms simultaneously there needs to be several things to come into play. At least for many people who do not experience this organically.
One communication: what is on what is off. Not necessarily kinky things it could be moods created by the milieu or special attention to erogenous zones. Music or soft light or soft murmurs.
If It is Dom and Sub then the desires of each shall evolve and preferences shall evolve. Each will be rewarded by the evolution of their sexual relationship. The enemy of a healthy sexual relationship is ignorance, and reluctance to respect a partner and her or his needs.
I hope I will once again be in a relationship as was what my wife, who is ill, and I once had. This time I will be a better lover for her whomever she shall be. Yes after 40 years I feel I could have been a better lover for her, I didn't realize she was a perfect sub until my recent introduction to M/S Dom/Sub subcultures.
Think it over, are you open are you using communication to improve or keep your sex life fresh and exciting?