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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Wednesday, February 21, 2024 at 4:45 PM

Hello Friends

I can learn and change and have demonstrated that in my life many times: I quit smoking, ten years completely sober as an alcoholic, objected to war but served our country, entered technical schools to alter course, went back to school, and won a full scholarship to Princeton (I turned it down because at 26 and married becoming a freshman and living on campus was not for me). was not religious but then embraced religion for 40 years (intensely religious) and now because of the disaster of my wife's early onset Alzheimer's, attempting to emerge out of the darkness adapted for a new life reinvented.

This new start emphasizes my artistic side and diminishes my technological past. I am determined that if this is to be the last phase of a long life, it will be filled with love and beauty. The cornerstone will be friendship. If I am to function in this new place with new horizons I need not only to adapt but to find a companion who will understand where I am, why I am, and where I am going, and willing to become a fellow traveler sharing and creating this journey together.


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