Hello Friends,
A friend of mine (Pierce Pettis) wrote a song with these lyrics:
Here's how life seems to me
Life is just therapy
Real expensive with
No guarantees
So I lie here on the couch
With my heart hangin' out
Frozen solid with fear
Like a rock in the ground
No guarantees. It can be frightening for sure. Yet I don't want a life that is all figured out with no room for serendipity, no room to learn from mistakes, and I do not want a romantic/sexual partner to be static unchanging, and unengaging. If love is an action word the romantic/sexual partner should be full of life learning, sharing, and teaching as well.
The spirit of a Dom and the spirit of a Sub is not "Frozen solid . . . like a rock in the ground." Each can respond to the other and become better at the role that they find themself in. How they arrived at their respective position is another story