Andron Dom

The Culture that has been here all the time

When I studied to acquire my Master's status I discovered the M/S relationship existed probably for all the history of humans. Religion and Western Culture distort this greatly. Using codes and euphemisms even denial masks it presents the fact many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marriage friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her" "Love her" I thought I was and did now I know without a doubt I need to be a master, not some preconceived idea we are to live as equals.

New Day New Hope and the Question of what is a Pet in BDSM

2 months ago. February 27, 2024 at 2:16 PM

Hello Friends,

Yes, it is warmer and the sun is out. I visited my Urologist and he told me you are doing well. I don't know whether it is a curse or a blessing: I am 76 with a functioning libido but a wife not able to be interested in sex. She is eight years younger with early onset brain disorder and I am the caregiver.

I see in the news a number of my contemporary entertainers (more noteworthy than I) have passed at 76 years old doctors tell me I am in the ever-increasing minority with this longevity; I don't feel old either. Yes I lost a step and the Army helped me lose some of my hearing but also gave me hearing aids (LOL) My family (paternal and maternal have the genes for longevity so I shouldn't be surprised.)

As a caregiver most of my hobbies and interests had to be set aside. I salvaged songwriting because I could carve out a quiet time to work. Each day is a new adventure. Life has strange twists and turns; some friends from school days are long gone as is all the older generation of my family. Having six brothers scattered from Iceland to Florida makes getting together a challenge. I used to be the oldest up until we met my older brother in Iceland. In general our genes also have encouraged all of us to seek one form of adventure or another (and we survived the wildness of our youth). Ok enough background. What adventure do I see myself in?

BDSM M/S is all new for me and I have only been introduced to this culture for about four months. Aspects are encouraging for me at this time in my life. It harkens back to my adventurous 1960s life that I have written about before. Ok a Dominatrix has been doing all the teaching and I am not her slave. She gifted me two trained subs but they have been unable to meet me because of winter and some other factors. In the meantime?

I have made some errors in my expectations as was revealed in my blog posts and I hope to reduce errors as I move along. Today I am curious about what it means if a sub-woman is considered a "pet". How does that look in reality I would like to know more about this idea where a human is considered a pet.

UpFromTheAshes(switch gender queer) - I'm something of a newbie myself, but....
What a Pet is seems to be highly subjective. The general assumption seems to be that a Pet is an s-type who wishes to be treated like a literal pet. What exactly that means can differ widely. I know that some people engage in pet-play as part of humiliation play (for example, "you're not even worthy of being treated like a human, so I'll treat you like a dog, you'll eat off the floor, and you'll crawl around on all fours, etc"). Others do it as an escape from having to be human (for example, "I just want to curl up next to you and get petted, or chase a string, or meow because talking is hard"). Still others do it because it's simply comforting or sexy to them.

Pet play also ranges a lot from small things like just wearing a collar and being led around on a leash, or wearing ears and a tail, or having a bed/nest/den to curl up in, to intense immersive play, with a full suit and/or accessories, behavior, mannerisms, a "pet" persona and name, doing training, play groups with other pets, etc. Pet play could be anything you can think of....I can almost guarantee that if you have some idea that pops into your head when you imagine what pet play is, someone out there probably does actually do pet play in that way.

2 months ago

Andron Dom - Thank you you comment is food for thought for sure.

2 months ago

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