Hello Friends,
We are more Normal and Happier than mainstream couples seem to be. It is a set of Myths that distorts reality.
From: 5 BDSM Myths Your Average Health Professional Actually BELIEVES By Miya Yamanouchi — Written on Apr 18, 2017
1. People who are into BDSM are disturbed, mentally unstable, or have a personality disorder.
WRONG! Science says kinksters are in better psychological shape than the general population. Research indicates that BDSM is actually associated with BETTER mental health, with people into kinky sex having a more favorable psychological makeup than non-BDSM practitioners.
2. BDSM is a destructive and unhealthy relationship dynamic based on abuse.
WRONG! BDSM is all about safety, sanity, and consent (aka the mantra for BDSM). The cycle of domestic violence is: Abuse — Guilt — Excuses — Honeymoon — Planning — Setup — Abuse. The cycle of BDSM is: Communication — Agreement — Scene-play — Aftercare — Debrief — Communication.
3. Anyone who wants to inflict/receive pain or be controlled/dominated must have come from a broken home.
WRONG! Research shows BDSM practitioners had just as good an upbringing as anyone else! Research consistently shows that BDSM isn't some pathological alarm bell sounding a past history of physical and or sexual abuse, but merely a sexual inclination to gravitate towards alternative and novelty sexual behaviors outside the norm.
4. People who are into weird sex are deeply miserable on the inside.
WRONG! Science tells us people into BDSM are actually happier. A 2015 study published in The Canadian Journal of Human Sexuality found that both dominant and submissive BDSM practitioners reported that their chosen forms of alternative sexual practices gave them: sexual arousal and pleasure, novelty, enjoyment, personal growth, psychological release, enhanced romantic relationships, and a feeling of being free from their everyday roles and being able to be themselves.
5. Adults who talk or act like a baby is imitating pedophilia and is of questionable mental capacity.
WRONG! Research indicates baby talk shows stronger intimate bonds in relationships and acting like a baby has nothing to do with pedophilia or an attraction to children. A report by Bombar and Littig published in 2005 found that couples who indulged in baby talking were more secure and less avoidant in their relationship as baby talking promotes emotional bonding as well as the expressing and nurturing of intimate and deep psychological bonds between lovers.