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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Thursday, April 25, 2024 at 11:31 AM

Hello Friends,

I am glad that my wife with cognitive decline is still with me. Her ability to interact is far from normal complicated by aphasia. With care and patience, we can have a loving relationship, however.

She hugs me, kisses me, and responds to music; we can even dance to an old favorite song. Sometimes, she even can say I love you (with some effort). 

So we are far from what things used to be, but enough of her former self surfaces to encourage me to continue with my caregiving. There isn't a reason to give up on her, though it is hard for me sometimes.

She walks okay, eats well, and is generally in good health otherwise. Her hampered communication ability emphasizes my understanding of her because she can get angry and frustrated and express it like a toddler with mischief. 

Loving her and paying attention to details minimizes the challenging times and keeps her quality of life as good as it can be with the challenges of Alzheimer's/Dementia/Aphasia. 

 

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