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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Sunday, May 5, 2024 at 8:26 PM

Hello Friends,

Yes, I chose to write a blog entry today. Lately, I have been feeling that at my age, I should not have a future outlook. Many well-known people and some not-so-well-known people have passed away at 76, my age: Jimmie Buffet, Melonie, Richard Tandy, Richard Lewis, OJ Simpson, et al. On the other hand, many of my family members lived into their 90's. So. If I want to adopt a positive attitude as a close friend encourages me to and admonishes me for negative vibes, this is a start:

"Yes, I am an older guy, and I have had an uncountable number of sexual encounters of many variations. I am settling into a pattern despite age related challenges: I desire a soft-spoken, affectionate woman who grows into a friendship, and once we know and trust each other, have sex from easygoing to whipped-up extremely passionate lovemaking as we learn to be lovers for each other. This takes time. Should I be in a hurry? No, I must not because the quality of both the friendship and the sex depend upon taking time to develop a relationship that can meet this goal."

My wife has a terminal disease, and its progression can not enable an accurate prognosis. What shall I do? I need to find the most profound amount of wisdom that I can summon to help guide me into such an ambiguous future.

The opinions are abundant, but the wisdom has yet to emerge.


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