Hello Friends,
All the assumptions about who you should allow yourself to like will go "out the window" when suddenly you are face to face with someone who likes you and that you like. Relationships are not beauty contests, muscle contests, talent contests, or even compatibility contests. It is an incomplete science, and data can only scratch the surface. It is probably unexpected, like a bolt of lightning out of the blue. The feelings could creep in or flash "go" instantly. What have I learned from the kink community? The big one is one size of anything or one preference of anything that doesn't fit all.
Two partners make their own decisions and live the way they agree to live. There are no archetypes or stereotypes. Only people decide what is suitable for themselves and the rules they choose for themselves.
Yes, I am totally imperfect. I even tumbled in a wind storm at Tucumcari, N.M., like the weeds that dented my car hood there, and even caused friction like the sand that blasted my car finish when I was there. I often am solitary, even in a crowd. It is like I am sitting on top of Franklin Mountain overlooking the lights of El Paso on a cool night. Or at Twin Lights State Historic Site* in N. J. scanning the ocean horizon, Long Island Lights, or the Narrows bridge and the City beyond. There are so many people out there, but only one inside of me.
* There were very many days as a young man I went to think there, especially when I was swamped with blues and purples.