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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Tuesday, June 4, 2024 at 9:00 PM

Yes, Friends,

When my wife passes, I have decided that I will remain a solo man widower. Googled this:

People may choose to spend time alone for a variety of reasons, including:
Introversion
Introverts may be energized by quiet and prefer solitude over being around others. They may also find group brainstorming distracting and prefer to develop ideas alone.
Overstimulation
Some people may feel overstimulated when around others and prefer to be alone.
Creativity
Alone time can allow the mind to wander and strengthen creativity. Research suggests that being alone can lead to changes in the brain that help fuel the creative process.
Personal development
Alone time can be critical for growth and personal development. It can allow people to focus on themselves, reflect, and identify areas for improvement.
Stress reduction
Spending more time alone has been linked with increased feelings of reduced stress.
Fear of disappointment
Like other social connections, friendship comes with expectations and a need for give-and-take, which can lead to disappointment.
Trauma response
Spending more time alone may be a subtle symptom of trauma if someone believes others don't understand them or that they will struggle to connect.  

I underlined the ones most applicable to me.

I am not a Dom and do not seek a sub. Probably never will.

 

Jim


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