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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Friday, June 7, 2024 at 9:12 AM

Hello,

I am back in the old life as my new life wakes me up early. My primary function is to be a caregiver and run our home. I feed the family (wife, me, and pets), keep everyone warm or cool, and keep them dry. I also do yard work, laundry, cleaning, and, most of all, pay the bills. It isn't fun, but it is rewarding to see things return to a coherent and predictable pattern.

The mole I had removed on Monday was benign (negative for cancer cells). But I suppose having a dermatologist now for annual check-ups is a good thing as I get older. There are more doctors to see than family or friends.

Caregiving leaves little time for a garden, but I have some plants scattered about. (tomatoes, green pepper, and flowers). I erected a fence around part of the backyard so the dogs can get out, and I need not leave my wife alone.

She will sit with me in the afternoon when I put on an old movie to take a break. She is in bed before 8 p.m., and I try to get to watch a British TV program or two before I turn in by 10 p.m. I have herbal tea, a small Potpourri of mugwort, and some melatonin to encourage dreams.

Having sex, let alone kinky things, is perhaps for another time. I suppose I will blog when I think of something to write about (most posts are quicker, and I can squeeze them into a day). JIm


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