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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Saturday, June 29, 2024 at 12:58 PM

Hey all,

Simple Googleified answer:

Abstinence usually refers to the decision not to have penetrative sex. It's typically limited to a specific period of time, such as until marriage. Celibacy is a vow to remain abstinent over an extended period of time. For some, this may mean their entire life.

 

Celibacy and abstinence can be personal choices that people practice in different ways, and some say that they can be erotic and kinky:
Celibacy
A voluntary choice to abstain from sex for a specific period of time or forever. It can also include a promise to remain unmarried. Celibacy can be a physical and mental exercise that involves more than just abstaining from sex. Some say that celibacy can be radical, self-indulgent, and sexy. It can give people the time and space to focus on their sexual desires and pleasure in their everyday lives. Celibacy can also help people switch their focus from pleasing others to pleasing themselves. In a culture that emphasizes casual sex, celibacy can also lead to deeper, more fulfilling relationships.
Abstinence
A choice to abstain from something, such as sex, eating chocolate, or drinking, for a shorter period of time. Abstinence can be more fluid and vary from person to person. 

Celibacy and abstinence can also have psychological benefits. Some people find that abstinence helps them keep their minds clear or that they're happier not having to worry about sex


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