Yes, folks, we all imagine ourselves in roles and act to fulfill what we imagine ourselves to be. Take me, for example. I imagined I was an explorer, a geologist, or a scientist in my childhood. Then, as I grew older, I became a sports guy, then a black leather jacket guy, and then a sophisticated trench coat-wearing pipe-smoking guy. Soon I was a rally sports car driver. Artist and poet mixed in with my romantic tendencies. The musical upheaval with the beat generation, the folk music trend, and in almost tandem with the British invasion, beginning with the Beatles and other groups, I became a folkie and then a hippie.
I was free-wheeling without a father at home to guide and, if necessary, punish me. When I finally realized my intellectual potential, I was far behind academically, and it was a mad race to catch up. I had done well, but there were consequences for me as a late blooming intellectual.
Throughout life, I bounced through many permutations for which I imagined myself to be. This continues, I believe.
So, having lived through forty years of a conventional monogamous marriage, I did not need to visit my kinky side (liberal sexual side) until circumstances prompted me to do so. Here in The Cage and from other sources, I learned a great deal about Dominant and Submissive personalities and especially the fetishes and kinks that people practice. In retrospect, the Dom/Sub relationship of old-fashioned marriages has been a typical norm, and my situation was just exactly like that.
In all human social situations, there are spoken or unspoken protocols, and I now have those in my mind, and when my situation dictates it, I can live with them accordingly.
