Hello all,
I was a trusting person, so I have been fooled, taken advantage of, and had financial challenges. For most of my life, the violations were not terrible, and I eventually realized why I was in a position I would not choose to be in and recovered. Learning experiences?
Finally, I know better now: I trust with much caution. For about a year, I searched for a companion helper (not a nurse for my wife), and I trusted women who promised to be Friends With Benefits. They would alleviate the intense caregiving I provide for my wife by being a comforter for me and helping with things in general. I was ignorant or simply darn right stupid. I trusted and paid for them to come in advance but did not verify their sincerity and validity: those several women turned out to be scammers.
Now? I have given up on the hope of finding a companion like that. If there is a chance, I see the odds as one in a hundred to be worth trusting that woman. Yes, I have emotional and financial scars. Will I recover? Financially? It will take time. Emotionally, I can not be sure.
I was watching a TV detective show, and the detective said a line that made me think: "A liar thinks everyone lies." Having been scammed one too many times, I fear I will think an amiable woman who befriends me is a scammer until proven otherwise. I suppose she will have to understand and be a special kind of person.
Meanwhile, I cherish the fact I still have my wife with me, as cognitively diminished as she is despite the hard work in caring for her.
