Andron

The Culture that has been here all the time

When I studied to acquire my Master's status I discovered the M/S relationship existed probably for all the history of humans. Religion and Western Culture distort this greatly. Using codes and euphemisms even denial masks it presents the fact many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marriage friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her" "Love her" I thought I was and did now I know without a doubt I need to be a master, not some preconceived idea we are to live as equals.

Greed is Healthy and Well in the World

2 weeks ago. November 7, 2024 at 2:55 PM

You can remove the poor boy from the lower class (yours truly is one), but you can never elevate him to a higher class.

Greed is the true religion of the US, and common Religions lead the way. No matter how poor my family was, "The Church" always wanted its cut.

I don't want to incite a nasty debate; I only want to suggest I am a man without religion, and I have my reasons; I will never return to religion ever again.

https://ac21doj.org/contents/articles/aTheologyOfGreed/index.html

The church we had belonged to for decades - and my wife was a diligent servant - was the first group of people we were associated with that left me to care for her by myself when she was diagnosed with dementia (the last four years have been hard). Next came family, and by that time, I no longer had friends as well. I will continue to care for my wife until my last breath or her last breath.

Bitter? Yes. I do not expect that I will have a caregiver for me when that time arrives.

lambsone - Too bad you and your wife don't live in my neighborhood. All you have to do is post to one of our FB neighbors groups as to what you need and someone/s will respond to help.

2 weeks ago

Andron - And so we thought some brothers and sisters in the Lord that we knew (some for forty years) would have helped us. The Christians in that part of Ocean County, NJ, bounced from church to church, so we knew or were acquainted with more than the 300 members from the last church we belonged to.
I served there for about ten years and Jeanne for about twenty-five. I preferred one of the smaller churches where I was needed most, but Jeanne always liked the bigger churches.
I was treated with very hostile attitudes because I was always bringing to the forefront selfish or misguided Bible interpretations: GREED WAS ONE EXAMPLE. God doesn't need us to get things done by backing an evil person for whatever reason, so prayer rather than POLITICS is my preferred course.
But that is all over now. I grew up in the NYC area, and a certain leader was not only greedy but abused people and associated with organized crime - yet I was threatened with death by a gunshot by a prominent Christian who disagreed with me.
No place is perfect. If I could, I would move to Switzerland or to Iceland, where I have an older brother and a big Icelandic family.
I know here once my wife is gone, I will die alone my step-children never liked me, and my son and daughter - extremely wealthy in the Shenandoah Valley VA - live for materialism I do not.

2 weeks ago

lambsone - You sure did get the shaft. I wish you could have seen God's love in action. Shame on all of them. Did the Pastor visit at all? That's one of their jobs. You would think after both of you were faithful to serve in the church, they would have had your backs in your need.

I don't reveal any personal need in any church I've been to. They have a tendency to take over your life when you make yourself that vulnerable.

I have always had a hard time trusting God for his love. I have no problem trusting Him for His provision though. But when I entered into a personal relation with Him at 18, I felt whole for the first time in my life. I had significance.

On the way home from meeting my last Dom over Sweetest Day weekend and him sneaking away during the night, I heard a song on a Christian Radio Station, that spoke about some of us straying from God but Him inviting us back. I have not been able to find it. It was sung by a small group of men in an old country style. It was very sweet.

It was then that I realized that the only safe place to put our feelings, expectations, needs, etc. is in His hands. That's where we are loved 100%. I finally sensed His love for the first time which was a baby step for me but a welcomed one.

We have no idea how much God works behind the scenes to motivate others to do what needs done. If you have experienced no help in human form, it is no fault of God's. He gives people free will. It is their fault, to their shame.

Don't cast God aside, thinking He doesn't love you or your wife, focus instead, on having long personal talks with Him. Pour out your heart, and then just rest in His arms even if you don't feel as though He has answered. Take it by faith that He did. Dwell frequently and lavishly in His presence. You may find that He has been doing things for you both that were previously unnoticeable.

Be daring and ask Him how he has been working for you behind the scenes. Be real also with Him about your's and your wife's needs. He delights in your commitment to caring for your wife. You've been a blessing to her. I know that she would return the favor if she could. Let caring for her be your delight instead of a burden you must bear.

Keep praising Him and focusing on the goodness of His Character. If for no other reason than to keep yourself warm towards Him when you reach the pearly gates. You don't want to arrive there feeling like a stranger.

I know that all I've said is something that you don't believe in nor the lifestyle you believe in anymore. But try giving God the benefit of the doubt anyway even though it appears an illogical thing to do.

I don't seek to lecture you but to help ease you back into a thriving God relationship and safe space in God's strong arms when what we see around us seems to be only bleak and hopeless.

2 weeks ago

Andron - I have no argument with you. Not one of the three pastors came to visit. I renamed God Eternal Grandfather Creator.

2 weeks ago

nettiK - Religion and politics are similar. They both want your money and time. That does not work for me so I have a personal relationship with God and my daily devotional scriptures (Jesus Calling) helps me without whining to friends and family. All the best 💚

2 weeks ago

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