Not the "When Worlds Collide is a 1951 American science fiction disaster film . . . " instead, I refer to you when two people become associated in some way. Friends, romantically involved, marry, live together, become partners, and any permutation of these relationships.
Each of us has a unique perspective as we peer out of ourselves, survey, and interact with the myriad of possible realities before us. The Billie Holiday song from 1946 with these lyrics:
"Mama may have, papa may have
But God bless the child that's got his own
Them that's got shall get
Them that's not shall lose… "
Some years ago, I had a conversation with an acquaintance about whether pets and kept animals love their benefactors. He said he believed it was all about the food he fed them. This interested me because I immediately began to consider that what love came down to, including love between humans, was nothing more than a pragmatic endeavor.
Love, which includes procreation and security, can grow into a complicated set of emotions with homo sapiens. Perhaps "NEEDS" and "WANTS" explain much about the human experience. Can it be that what we describe as "LOVE" is only the tip of a proverbial iceberg in what we do to survive? Yes, we do have to survive, and over time, we rely on others and form "bonds" that can last a lifetime. A TV show from the 1950s uses that phrase. "this is one of a million stories," .
Some people may be puzzled by my "Caregiving" for my wife, whose severe cognitive issues place significant demands on me. I persevere with limited resources and minuscule help from people. I hope to meet a woman who will understand, come to love me, and help me in my situation. It seems to be a long shot at best, and experience bears this out.
A significant aspect and hindrance? If we have a mutually acceptable beginning (compatible), I can offer friendship and become her lover in time, giving her a home and as much security as possible. As a helper and companion, I would not expect her to be a nurse for my wife. That is my job. With her help, I could get back on track and keep my routine health care up to date, and perhaps our relationship would grow into a more profound commitment.
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