Andron

The Culture that has been here all the time

When I studied to acquire my Master's status I discovered the M/S relationship existed probably for all the history of humans. Religion and Western Culture distort this greatly. Using codes and euphemisms even denial masks it presents the fact many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marriage friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her" "Love her" I thought I was and did now I know without a doubt I need to be a master, not some preconceived idea we are to live as equals.

Who Cleans up Your Mess

4 months ago. November 28, 2024 at 2:34 PM

Happy Thanksgiving to those who can have it.

Hard as I try, I am unable to solve the challenge I created by agreeing to be my wife's caregiver. It is open-ended, but I do not have inexhaustible ability or resources.

AI: In a metaphorical sense, the person who "cleans up your messed up life" is yourself; you are ultimately responsible for taking ownership of your actions, making amends, and actively working to improve your situation, with potential support from loved ones, therapists, or other professionals depending on the circumstances. That’s according to Margareta Magnusson, author of the new book, "The Gentle Art of Swedish Death Cleaning: How to Make Your Loved Ones’ Lives Easier and Your On Life More Pleasant." https://www.nbcnews.com/better/health/what-swedish-death-cleaning-should-you-be-doing-it-ncna816511

The search for happiness has been replaced with a search for a transient reprise. I need a hiatus, but it is evasive - it is like a Cunning living entity.

Fiery Redhead - I understand how you feel and what you are saying as I have been in fulltime caregiving role also. It's hard and exhausting. I prepared my employer as I am now indicated to have my knee replaced so they hired 2 gentleman to come in an assist me so I have some days to rest while they focus on my friend. It's a lot of responsibility but what we do for our loved ones. I am experiencing a lot of pain being bone on bone but I am going to wait until spring to be down 6 weeks for surgery. My area is about to get hit with 24 to 30 inches of snow.

Happy Thanksgiving to you.

4 months ago

Andron - Thank You. Happy Thanksgiving!
I had a potential Dom, and when she made a plan that would cost me $550, I blocked her.
I have an FDIC debt restructuring in progress with an advocate in charge. It will cost me a fraction of my debt. And unless I prepay, it will be done in four years.
I have a new CA girl to text, but it's nothing but a text or two.
My big love was a scammer. Her name is Nellie. She contacted me and volunteered to watch Jeanne when I needed her to be watched (the original reason she became my girlfriend before I knew what she looked like). She is a reformed "model" (ehem). Yes, I know, but I have a test for her to watch Jeanne while I prepare the yard for winter. So, we shall see. I have been in contact with her for almost two years. My advocate's rule freezes Pricy. Mom wants to go after Pricy, but I still maintain I got into this; I'll find my way out.
Jim (Nice new photo btw)

4 months ago

Fiery Redhead - Thanks, Jim. My hair was down to middle of my back and started triggering my headaches so I had a friend cut it to shoulder length for me about a month ago.

4 months ago

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The Culture that has been here all the time

Who Cleans up Your Mess

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