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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 year ago. Wednesday, December 18, 2024 at 4:45 PM

My wife's heritage is Welsh, Sicilian, and extreme northern Italy. Her grandma from near the Swiss border was bonder than blonde, and my wife got a good dose of her genes. As her caregiver, I discovered how much of her is covered with blonde hair and now wonder why she twizzed her blonde eyebrows out and put brown ones in their place. Her Celtic genes added to the look that manifested as she got older: darkening hair on her head only and blue eyes. Another thing she shared with my second wife's traits was a very feminine personality - I love that.

My preference for extremely blonde girls may be imprinted in my genes: my Polish grandma was very blonde, and thus, my mom was too. The very first girls I warmed up to were all blondes, starting around 12 years old. What is odd, perhaps, is what genes I inherited from my father: Dark Olive skin, deep hazel eyes, and chestnut hair. The Maygar look was in me, I was told. My mom and dad were artistic, which is probably why I have a brooding artistic personality. My Polish family was very musical. Grandpa had a band and played in bars like I did.

This is just a musing out loud, nothing more.

Jim

PS: My official birth certificate states James, but the Polish Parish version states Jacob. 

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