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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
1 day ago. Friday, April 17, 2026 at 8:40 AM

Mt dear blog readers, I have good and bad to report concerning my health checks yesterday, no surprise.

I have several arthritic joints, but my hip surprised the doctors because I keep moving, unlike many of their patients who complain and want fast answers. Mind over matter works for me. "I keep moving." I play guitar to overcome arthritis in my fingers (LOL). I eat lemons to keep on singing LOL.  I have a strong will, that is how I avoided a heart transplant from 2005 - 2010. Today, the CT scan of my aorta makes me a little nervous, but like other signs of aging, I "keep keeping on".

My lover and muse, wherever you are, I am not impatient, but do not wait too long to come to me. I need you.

1 day ago. Thursday, April 16, 2026 at 6:52 PM

Are your kinky thoughts just fantasies and wishful thinking, or are they something you actually desire? Are you constrained by something? Fear: Bad relationships, experiences like catching a STD or being hurt emotionally or possibly physically. Songwriters have a metaphor for you.

"Walk through the Fire"

"Walk the Fire"

"Ring of Fire"

Or Dance

"I hope you dance."

"The Dance"

Do something, don't just sit there and wonder what you MIGHT do or what it MIGHT be like.

I knew a guy who admonished me when I hesitated about doing something: He said, "Do something even if it is wrong." When you choose to move, you can always make a course correction.

 

 

2 weeks ago. Saturday, April 4, 2026 at 8:51 AM

Cut the head of some insects, and they still function for a time. Cut a worm in two, and the halves squirm and usually morph into two new worms.

The only reason I put forth these examples is to illustrate my current sense of being. The life force is struggling to reassert itself. Reinvent itself. Find a new identity: This is a good development, though my life is fraught with isolation and loneliness. I hope it will pass.

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