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The Culture that has been here all the time

When I was introduced to BDSM relationships, I realized they had existed probably for all of human history. Religion and Western Culture distort this and BDSM itself greatly, and if anything, an incredible hypocrisy is always present. Using codes and euphemisms, even denial can mask the fact that many people thrive within this often unrecognized subculture. For example, my wife had all the earmarks of a pleasure slave and was generally devoted and submissive to me. In times of marital friction, I often heard the words from a counselor, "She just wants you to love her." "Love her," I thought I was, and now I know without a doubt I need to be a Dominant, not some preconceived idea that we are to live as equals: we are not only one can be a Dom and one a sub at a time, but, it is perfectly fine if switching is desired at least now and then.
4 hours ago. Monday, March 9, 2026 at 2:44 PM

The Right Woman for Me will help me wrap up my life in the east and help me resettle in NM. NM is the State I have visited most in the Western US, and I am serious about moving there.

"Retiring in New Mexico offers an affordable, culturally rich lifestyle with a cost of living roughly 3% below the national average. Popular for its sunny climate, diverse landscapes, and low property taxes, the state is ideal for active seniors. Key, affordable retirement spots include Rio Rancho, Roswell, and Silver City."

I always loved its diversity and the wide open spaces, the four seasons, and the people I met were very agreeable. I might even resurrect my art studio there. Does anyone want to take up my offer?

1 day ago. Sunday, March 8, 2026 at 10:37 AM

I can not remain like "a Rock Stuck in the Ground" A fellow songwriter always says it better than me: You Move Me.

"This is how it seems to me
Life is only therapy
Real expensive and no guarantees
So I lie here on the couch
With my heart hanging out
Frozen solid with fear
Like a rock in the ground"

Songwriters: Gordon Scott Kennedy / Pierce Ray Pettis, great words and harmonies.

I have lived decades of therapy, and finally, I convinced doctors that I really was bipolar, and that has made all the difference in my life. Even through the challenging eight years I was a sole caregiver, I managed to be on an even keel. It also helped that I was trained in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).

Enough explaining.

I am also recovering from financial mistakes, and that is a limiting constraint, but as people often say, "life is too short to give up." At my age, it has greater meaning to me than to most people.

I attempted to upgrade here so I can add images, but so far, though I approved the transaction, it hasn't been validated.

Again, life has burned me alive, and I must rise from the ashes like the phoenix.

THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT INFORMATION HERE ON A BDSM WEBSITE: I AM OPEN TO EXPERIENCING A RELATIONSHIP WITH A DOMINANT WOMAN. I hope I can meet her and an opportunity close enough in order to avoid financial travel challenges.