Drinfear's Ravings

 I recently made a post, and have to apologize.. My headset is not sensitive or astute enough to provide an authentic version of the song I chose to sing.. I am looking forward to purchasing one in the near future that can differentiate and differentiate the tones and inflections.. My present headset and microphone are designed for standard gaming, and have been enough until now.. I realize I need something more discerning, and will purchase something better in the near future.. The song I attempted to sing, but failed to register was..

 I look forward to letting others hear My acapella rendition in the near future..

 Some may complain that My outlook is far too strict, or too narrow.. That the world is not written in black and white.. That right and wrong are effusive, or even relative.. -I- disagree.. RIGHT is right, wrong is WRONG. If an action needs to be defined or explained, it is WRONG. No if's no and's, no but's.. RIGHT needs no explanations, descriptions ot explanations, DOES it? O.o

 I recently ran into a wall, one full of excuses and equivalencies, ALL trying to justify actions both sides KNEW were wrong.. By downplaying, and attempting to rectify their stance on the subject, they exposed their view that any such promises, or vows, they made to ME, could be discounted, downplayed and made irrelevant.. Once I SAY something, it is concrete. If I make a PROMISE, it is for LIFE, and beyond.. If I make a VOW, it supersedes this lifetime, and DEATH will not prevent Me from upholding it.. (YES, I know that most will dismiss this comment as dramatics, but My Life experiences PROVE these words far better than anything I 'say' ever could..)

 If someone dismisses the statements, promises or vows someone made to a specific person, HOW can I expect them to hold any such statements THEY make to ME as sacred, or binding..?

 Words have meaning. They were SAID with purpose, with definition, and MEANT in the moment.. Yes. But the statement DOESN'T change depending on changing interpretations.. If someone makes vows to God, in the sight of Man LEGALLY, the only way to cancel those words is by nullifying and cancelling the relationship.. Failure to DO so, and entering into a relationship with someone so involved, proves that these principles are just 'words' to be thrown around when it suits the individual, NOT as a principle to base a relationship on..

 Dom

03/24/26

 I am not one to judge. I know nobody's walk through this life but MINE, and do not pretend or claim otherwise. I have ZERO grounds to judge, having no context from their perspective to determine right or wrong, and honestly? Would not do so if I DID.. Judgment is neither My purpose or place in this life.. 

 THAT being said, I DO tend to attract those that fit this specific mentality..

Dom

It amazes Me how someone can connect on so many different levels.. Music likes, SHOWS mutually liked, characters, books, genres in every vein.. But once principles are included, they merely become words. NOT the principles relationships are based on.. Trust, Respect, Loyalty become mere words thrown out to maintain an individual foothold within a life they have proven they have no belief in, or access to..
I know there may be those out here that may believe this post is singling THEM out.. Such is NOT the case.. I am posting this based on recent issues I almost tripped over privately, in personal messages with someone I began to believe might mean more than the friend we agreed to be.. But the red flags do NOT get ignored any more these days.. Once they are raised, I move to the next..
I will ALSO not disregard the red flags that have recently been raised, and continue to do so with the passing of time, diverging from things I have been led to believe, and the actions that prove otherwise. I do not point fingers, I am not here to judge or humiliate, I am merely expressing facts..
Dom
03/21/26

 Not a defender or proponent of violence in any way.. But WILL defend boundaries for any and ALL I consider friends or Family.. (which, to ME, holds no difference..) 

There seems to be a growing culture.. One, I am fortunate NOT to have been included in.. Where women convince each other traditional roles are "toxic" because such roles never appealed to THEM.. They proved themselves mentally unable to conform to such roles and their significant other rejected their self serving and entitled views, choosing to be single instead..
I do not judge, nor do I demean their choices.. -I- have not walked in their shoes, so who am -I- to do so? Not My purpose or place in life..
For anyone approaching ME, know full well, I KNOW My worth. I know who I AM, what My capabilities are, in EVERY aspect of My life.. WHAT I am WILLING to do to defend My Family, to Provide for, and to Guide them through life to achieve that which I have determined to be the best course.. Coming at Me with immature tests, trials or tribulations designed in YOUR mind, or even WORSE, the minds of those that believe relationships are playgrounds meant to test and push limits because THEY were always unable to hold them together is unacceptable.. There won't BE a chance afterward to claim "it was a mistake" because it was a conscious choice that was made to make a point to YOU.. -I- had no say in the matter, YOU made the choice, and choices have absolute and concrete consequences..

 AGAIN I will not demand ANYTHING.. Those that DEMAND are not worthy.. I KNOW I am worthy.. Trust, Respect and Loyalty will be given once earned.  I will and do not force this process, I allow it to follow the course it sets for itself, depending on the individuals involved.. When the one I am speaking with decides I have earned their respect, they will GIVE it.. I expect no less..

 IF the time comes where =I- believe such respect should be shown by My honesty and consistency, THAT is a totally different conversation.. One I will have with that person on an individual basis, and is NOT privy to outside influence or control.. Nobody outside Me and the individual need be involved, and have no say in the matter, DO they? O.o I expect no other input, nor will I expect such on MY behalf..

 I believe that Respect, Trust and Loyalty are Principles a relationship of ANY kind are built upon.. A lifestyle relationship even MORE so.. They are NOT "buzzwords" to be thrown around to make a point, or emphasize a position..

 I do not DEMAND respect, only those unworthy of earning do that.. But, on the SAME hand, do not accept DISRESPECT either.. Someone that shows that contempt is unworthy of ANY attention from Me.. NO, I am not judging, I am stating facts.. Anyone willing to approach Me is free to do so, I will even open the door.. But be warned, TRUTH is stronger than bluster or feelers.. 

Dom

03/11/26

 Yes open relationships exist.. BUT they are clearly defined by ALL involved.. Lines and boundaries that are clearly defined and negotiated by all involved. YES there are those few exceptions to this rule, just as with any other such rule.. (do what you want, so will -I- mentality..) MY question remains.. If zero boundaries are provided by either side, WHERE is the actual emotion the relationship is MEANT to be founded on..?

 I am not talking about possessiveness, nor jealousy, I am speaking about basic human respect.. If someone does not care enough to set basic boundaries, WHERE is any type of devotion in the relationship..? ALL relationships have boundaries.. I, to My chagrin, learned this by trusting someone I should NOT have.. I do not regret this action, I learned My lesson. I sold My business for $287,000 in Minneapolis only to, 6 months later, find them driving a brand new car, AND find them living in a house that MY money paid for, but only in THEIR name.. 

 This experience did not jade Me.. I continue to trust those in My life, BUT total trust, I have determined, is EARNED and proven over time.. As are Trust, Respect and Loyalty.. I expect no less provenance in return, and prove these principles on a daily basis..

Dom

03/10/26

 I am a DOM. Period. HAVE been since January of 1994.. I make no excuses, I do not feel the necessity to throw My weight around.. My past and experience speak for themselves. I am ME.. A Dom, a Warrior, something about both hit a resonant chord once I was introduced to the lifestyle, and I combined the two. I make no demands, as those that are unworthy of them do.. I continue to put one foot in front of the other, keep moving forward.. I KNOW I am worthy of respect, trust and loyalty, I ALSO know they will be given once I have EARNED them. 

 Words have meaning. I do not speak "just to hear My Own voice".. When I SAY something, it is set in concrete.. If I make a PROMISE, Death Himself cannot keep Me from keeping it.. ever. I have survived multiple blatant attempts on My life, INCLUDING, to My chagrin, a dedicated attempt to end My OWN life.. NOT proud of it, but do not HIDE or try to sweep it under a rug, either.. Just another experience that has formed Me into the man, the DOM, the Warrior I am today.. I have MULTIPLE experiences I am not proud of, but do not HIDE them as others might.. If asked, I answer concisely and honestly.. 

  I honestly do not know why I am posting this, beyond opening the possibility of others contacting Me for clarification.. Like I said.. I am ME. I refuse to be any WAY or anyone else.. 

Dom