I have NEVER been one to follow the crowd.. FACE it, if I WERE such, would I have chosen to be a DOM..? (really. REALLY..?)
I have been a DOM, NOT just saying I am one, but LIVING the lifestyle daily, since January of 1994.. The Domme that introduced Me to the lifestyle chose to not only submit herself, and her 4 girl Household to Me, but chose to take Me under her wing and TRAIN Me for the next decade,, (I lost contact with Mistress Carol after 10 years of training, and honestly do not know her present whereabouts.. But she taught, and trained Me in the basic aspects of being a DOM.. Having been raised to be a Warrior, once introduced to the Lifestyle and the tenets, morals and principles of being a DOMINANT, I realized BOTH were complimentary and chose to embrace them both.. Mistress Carol continued to guide and teach Me, even AFTER our relationship fell apart..
I am still here, having visited a plethora of lifestyle locations nationwide.. Performed at some, made My presence known at others.. I do what I do for ME and My Household. NOT to make a name for Myself, or to make a living at it.. I do so because I BELIEVE in the tenets and restrictions of being a DOM.. I LIVE this life by choice, not to be recognized or to make an income for doing what I do.. (NOT judging.. Such is neither My purpose or place in Life..)
Yes, I AM Polyamorous, and I understand such is NOT the choice of everyone here.. AGAIN, I do not judge, either way.. I have led a Poly Lifestyle since I was 16.. (though being shared WAS understood by ALL the girls in My life, at the time, it was NOT expected, or DEMANDED.. several of those girls in My life at the time, actually brought girls TO Me to add to the Household..(I ALSO admit, I did not actually force any of them to perform in synchronicity at the time, though I ALSO wonder what may have been had I chosen to, now..)
Though I may BE a DOM, I do not believe that means FORCING anyone to do anything they do no choose to participate in.. -I- believe submission is a gift.. One that can only be given FREELY.. If bullied, or FORCED, all you get is FEAR, not actual submission, which only fosters fear, reluctance and thoughts of revolution against Tyranny (see the present day revolution against President Donald Trump, claiming Him to be a "king" or "emperor" uh huh.. "accept the vote" and "whoever gets voted in is President" be damned, right..?)
The girl, or, in some instances, girlS in My life are there by CHOICE.. Some of the girls from My past, going back to 1998 are STILL friends because they CHOOSE to be, NOT because I force it.. We did not work in a relationship, but we remain friends, because that is one of the Roles I filled when we were together.. As a DOM, I CHOOSE to be their (IN order of importance) 1) Protector. 2) Provider. 3) Guide. 4) Friend. 5) Lover..
As their Protector, I am not one of these insecure wannabe's.. I actually take it as a COMPLIMENT when guys flirt with My girl, or girls.. I avoid violence at all costs as much as possible.. Until SHE tells Me she has a problem with someone.. Whether they're invading her space, getting too familiar, invading her space, or whatever reason.. Once she explains the issue to Me, I approach the person and kindly ask them to refrain.. -smile- if they choose to ignore My request, which IS their right to do, I MAKE them stop.. PERIOD.
As their Provider.. It is MY job to make sure than ANY need they have is covered, even if that means doing without MY needs or wants in the process.. MANY is the night, in My past, that I went to bed hungry to ensure My Family had full bellies.. Be they people, or pets.. Family is FAMILY..
As their Guide, it is My duty to understand them, to KNOW them better than they know themselves.. I learn them so well that by the time they realize they WANT something, I am USUALLY already DOING it to them..
As their Friend, I offer a should to lean or to cry on.. An arm to catch them if they stumble, or to carry them if necessary.. A hand to lift them if they fall.. An ear to listen, or a mouth to give advice if needed/wanted.. BUT.. I do not expect to be their ONLY friend.. My girls are not prisoners.. I push them to find others they can relate to/get along with.. others they can hang out with, spend time with outside the Household, away from the Family structure.. Party with.. Take road trips with.. Be themselves with..
As their Lover, I believe the description is self explanatory, though I do not believe the extent can be fully understood until experienced,,
THIS is just MY promise to those coming into My life.. As previously mentioned, I maintain a steady relationship to girls from back to the 1990's.. Once offered, My Friendship is something that remains beyond the relationship until either THEY choose to end it..
Dom
11/13/25