I am going to share a story.. No intentional poetry, just stories from My life.. First of all, I want to point out, I was introduced to the BDSM lifestyle at 24, in January 1994.. I have devoted My life to embracing this lifestyle ever since.. (some can attest, having personally witnessed My Polyamorous lifestyle through the years..)
I created My last polyamorous Household when I welcomed that member to My Family and Household in Feb of 2023..? She seemed like the perfect fit, but I admit, I moved too fast, ignored multiple red flags..
While together, she would go shopping with Me.. I would pick up this or that saying Natalie will want this.. All I got in response was venom.. Statements like '-I- am the one here, why does what SHE wants matter' or even worse.. These are not the statements of someone sharing a life, or a Household together with mutual trust, respect or loyalty..
One night, while sitting playing on My computer, they got up to use the bathroom. Coming out, they said as they passed Me.. ;I'm done with this'.. I removed My headphones and told them.. 'OK'.. They blinked, and asked WHAT? I responded again.. OK. I'm done, too.. they reacted as if I had set them on fire.. yelling, screaming, DEMANDING I fight.. Why WOULD I? If it had gotten to the point that they decided it was over, I had already failed on a level that could not be recovered from, so WHY waste the effort to try to change their mind..?
THEN the accusations started.. I should have pushed back.. Should have fought to keep the relationship, should have this, could have that.. WORDS have meaning.. If you SAY something, be prepared for it to be accepted.. DON'T try to become a (the) victim when the words are accepted exactly the way you expressed them.. DON'T try to walk it back, because, IN that moment, you reveal EXACTLY who you really ARE. No filters, no excuses, no second chances, no exceptions..
Dom
3/3/26