EVERYBODY I have ever met have them.. "what it be like to do THIS?" " what would happen is I did THAT..?" "what would it be like to get away with X? (insert crime of YOUR choice mentally.. rob a bank, hurt someone, "CLAIM something that never accepted you" whatever, it's a rhetorical exercise) The FOCUS is the THOUGHT.. Some of us have experiences in our past we would rather not deal with, SOME of us have dealt with these demons, defeated them, and become stronger.. NO accusations, NO judgements.. None necessary.. We would ALL deal with these experiences in our own individual way, if we were free to DO so, would we NOT? SOME more, some less violent than others.. STILL no shame or judgement..
Enter someone innocent of the experiences ne may, or may NOT have experienced.. In open and clear honesty, express feelings, thoughts, but fail to ACT on them, just a MENTION literally in passing, without a single mention of acting on them.. Mentioning them, because it is part of the 'Human Condition', and being, as always, completely and bluntly honest.. If these thoughts were mentioned in passing, while performing an act of Protection for one that "claimed" to be connected, and were then "discarded" for lack of a better term.. Even after AGREEING (previously) together that certain ACTIVITIES are off limits.. HOW would YOU feel..?
Rhetorical exercise here, NOTHING more..
Dom
P.S. Example.. You both AGREED robbing a bank is both illegal and immoral.. But mentioned having thoughts of ROBBING a bank, in passing, whilst doing something you believed to be meaningful for the other individual, and they judged and shamed you for such thoughts and refused further contact for HAVING or MENTIONING such thoughts, despite no actions to DO so..