I have heard some comments over the years about the need to 'break' a partner (typically a sub or slave). In my opinion and based on my personal experiences, this word, 'break' portrays the exact OPPOSITE of a Dominant's role in the life of His chosen partner. Braking someone is useless. I consider myself to be like a cowboy from the Wild West: let Me draw her in and ease her fears; her anger towards others; and SHOW her a Man worthy of the gift of her submission. I PREFER a girl with spirit! I'm not the "yes, Sir" at every comment type. Let My words and actions rebuild her spirit gently, the proper way. Let her learn trust from Me consistently following through on the words that I say and my encouraging ways. Let her learn to Respect herself in the respect I show her. I PREFER a girl that speaks her mind within the confines of our relationship.
When I hear these words about breaking a submissive, all I really imagine is a man who doesn't want to put effort into the relationship. It's always easier to destroy than to build. THIS is the absolute wrong approach.
I find that I have always attracted these types, those thinking they are broken. I strive to show them the way a good relationship should be and give them a foundation for self respect. This always does more good than "breaking them" would. I hope sharing my thoughts and experience will maybe give someone pause before they believe they need to break a sub to be a success.
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