Drinfear's Ravings

The ravings of the lunatic known here as Drinfear.. Various antics, advice and incidents that have happened over My 30 years living the Lifestyle..

It has been brought to My attention over several blogs now which I have read, and even responded to, on occasion.. It can be summed up most succinctly by the phrase 'in this day and age we don't settle'.. I agree the times are coming to the point where 'I want what I want, and I want it NOW' is the 'norm'.. This mentality is fine and I am NOT here to judge anyone for anything they choose to do.. That is NOT My goal or My place in life..

I am a recently turned 55 year old Dom/Master/ (but MOSTLY) Daddy.. I DO understand, FAR too well, that in 2024 'we don't settle, I have far too much experience over the years of looking through app after app and website after website.. I am the FIRST to preach safety, especially when meeting someone online face-to-face.. I HAVE been that advocate for years now, and have EVEN 'secretly chaperoned' such meetings in the past.. Having been present and in the moment in case the meeting went wrong in her opinion .. I WOULD like to point out, however, in MY opinion ONLY here, a days worth of conversation is sometimes NOT enough to agree to a face to face meeting.. There is more than ONE side to the safety issue, 'ESPECIALLY in 2024'.. SOME out here do need to talk and establish a foundation of Trust and Respect before agreeing to such face-to-face meetings..
That being said, meeting someone one day online and agreeing to a meeting is fine, as long as both parties stay safe.. Remain vigilant and stay aware of what is going on around YOU, if this is the case.. ALWAYS let others know WHERE you're going and WHO you are meeting.. Safety first is ALWAYS the clear and present issue.. But SOME out here DO need a deeper connection than just one day of talking before feeling safe to meet in person..

SOME out here, on EITHER side of the D/s or M/s or even the DD/lg dynamic can be hiding issues.. Issues that become apparent after more than just ONE day of talking back and forth.. TIME spent CAN be spent on someone not worthy, BUT isn't it better to learn THROUGH these conversations that they throw red flags before meeting face-to-face where these flags can turn into physical harm or WORSE..?

Sir Don(dom male){Nt looking} - I agree with you on this.
Also with this day and time of instant everything... time is the thing taking the time to go that extra step. This is the case as to the first time we met in person. Hidden agenda on my part..
. Right ???

8 months ago

Drinfear(dom male){Owns PFP} - Boss? I never suspected a hidden agenda in any way, but ALSO know You well enough to know, beyond doubt, that if ANYTHING had felt off, to You, OR to her, You would have loaded Flitter back in the truck and taken her right back to Your place. She and I had that EXACT conversation tonight when she woke up and couldn't get back to sleep.. (before I made homemade spaghetti sauce and butter rolls which are the BOMB, and were made by Me for the first time tonight..)
As for taking the time to take that extra step.. I don't care about pressure. If they press, I'll tell them 'whoa kimosabe' and if they continue, they're wanting somethimg *I'M* NOT.. SOME even had the audacity to TELL Me that *I* would be paying their living expenses in part or in FULL while I talked to them and in 3-6 months they would decide if I was 'worthy' of having them.. Yeah.. No. Keep it, thanks.. It's not whether *I* would be worthy, its about are YOU worthy of entering My life.. That attitude clearly isn't..

8 months ago

flitter'fly(sub female) - I'm confused as to your question.
But as what Daddy and I had discussed while he was writing this blog. Even you know specifically of ONE who not only used you robbed from you. But then went and did the exact same to another. And damn near destroyed his relationship.
Both on all sides of the slash in this day and age, if not careful can end up harmed or more.
If this answers any questions.

8 months ago

Sir Don(dom male){Nt looking} - I meant I was making sure that you were going to be OK

8 months ago

flitter'fly(sub female) - I'm perfectly okay, thank you.
You did take the time to not only speak with Dom on several occasions but also to bring me here personally.
And you and I still corsspond. That is being real. Nothing g fake in makeing certain one is okay.
But you also know me enough to know, I'd tell you if there were a problem. Or I felt unsafe.
I do not at all.
Again thanks for asking and makeing certain.

8 months ago

Drinfear(dom male){Owns PFP} - I knew that, and do not discredit Your concern, Boss.. As previously stated, Flitter and I had this exact conversation this past night, and I have NO doubt that You would have loaded her up and taken her back if EITHER of Y/you felt something off..

8 months ago

Innocent Me(sub female){Protected} - I've always stayed on the side of safety. A bit too much sometimes, I never had a wild phase in my life...I felt it was too unsafe. Thinking of partying and drinking with people my age felt too unsafe, I didn't have someone who I trusted enough to make sure I got home safely and never got taken advantage of. It's the same now, I've been here for the past 2 years or so and it's frustrating how many doms have wanted to meet after a couple of weeks of meeting...even after a month.

My Daddy and I are meeting after 4 months and that's only because I feel insanely safe with him and he has been 100% transparent. I know whatever I ask from him to be comfortable meeting he would do without hesitation. Any question he answers honestly, even if it paints him in not the best of light. He's comfortable meeting for coffee and going home if that's what I need. I'm guilty of ignoring red flags in the past, so I know how difficult it can be...but I see too many people on here get caught up in the excitement and possibilities and let their guard down.

One of the first things I did when I joined this site at first was make friends with older doms who gave amazing advice on what to look for as far as red flags go and how to go about meeting a dom. Do's and don'ts...that advice has been some of the best I've gotten. Seems like common sense, but you'd be surprised how many subs don't know.

8 months ago

Drinfear(dom male){Owns PFP} - ms estaria, I SEE why My flitter holds you in such high regards.. If you had been on the mid Gulf Coast in Florida, you could have relied on ME to make sure you got Home unmolested after a night of partying with your friends.. I started driving a cab in 2004 (September of that year, to be perfectly honest) to honor the memory of My son, Dom, Jr, who was taken by a drunk driver with his mother when he was 7 months old.. (he was born Oct 5th, 1990, he was taken at the end of May or start of June of 1991, THAT is all I know, and to this day, have never even seen his or his mother's graves) But I always called runs in, and paid for hem out of MY pocket to ensure they got home safely without harming anyone else.. (this WAS a selfish act to ensure nobody else had to go through the hell *I* did.. This experience and OTHERS has been posted on various blogs I have made in the 2 months-ish I have been here on the Cage..)

8 months ago

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