If we are all adults here, why is it that we are still acting childish?
I understand that some of us here are more mature than others, but basic communication skills should still apply.
Why do people feel the need to speak to others, instead of speaking directly to the person involved?
Why ask someone else to pass on a message when you can relay it yourself?
How is one supposed to take you seriously when you can't speak directly to them? Not only have you involved others in the situation, but you have then had to explain the situation to said individuals in order for them to pass on the message.
Why not speak to them directly?
Why is that so much to ask?
I don't hold grudges. It steals my joy and hangs onto the past.
I live in the moment and realize that we are all human. We aren't perfect and we are all learning as we go. Nobody got handed a user's manual at birth.
Sometimes, we don't get it right the first time.
The way I look at it, it's only a mistake if you don't learn from it. Otherwise, it's an opportunity for growth.
I understand that people change, learn, and grow. I also understand that not everyone has the desire to change and/or grow. Some are happy to stay stuck in their ways and don't see an issue with their behaviour.
I'll keep it simple for you...
If you wronged me, right it.
If you fucked up, fix it.
If you're sorry, apologize.
If you want to talk, reach out.
If I need to apologize, let's discuss it.
If your feelings are hurt, talk to me. I can't fix issues I am not aware of.
If you're looking for a second chance, shoot your shot. The worst that happens is that I say no.
It's not that complicated.
I am a private person when it comes to my business. The last thing I want, is for others to be put in the middle. We all know how well the "telephone game" works. I have been in the middle, and it is not somewhere I want to be again.
Involving others in a conversation that should be between the 2 involved, encourages miscommunication, misunderstandings, and unnecessary drama.
I'm at a point in my life where I have no interest in drama or feel the need to have an opinion about other people's business that does not involve me.
Do better. Make good choices.