TalentedOptimist(dom male){open}

The Belly

The dom with the blog about stuff concerning intellectual capacity, emotional intelligence and general compassion for other human beings.

Prepared for Her

3 years ago. February 4, 2021 at 8:20 PM

First started in kink during my Army tour in Germany. Now, I've officially been a civilian for a year. Got the house (no roommates or pets), car, business, and Harley. I guess a part of me thought a submissive would appear from the depths of my accomplishments. Wishful thinking, but you never know.

I went back over the advice of all my mentors about "getting/being ready," preparing for the future, staying open to new possibilities, while solidifying my foundation to support and guide. They were talking about marriage, I was talking about my romantic life in general.

I completed all my milestones and am now focusing my time on BDSM. Weird time, I know. I set this plan in motion when I realized that time was the only thing people wasted, complained about not having, then stole from others without any consideration. So instead of a backhanded dive into distractions, I decided to sit down with this. Reached out to friends, went online, had Tinder, browsed the Cage. Had some fun and a couple of good runs, and I'm choosing not to go down the negative thought route. I am looking for who is going to be mine.

I have my shit together...is what I tell myself to just get through. I focus on the basics and proper breathing. I worked my way up from nothing and I want a woman who likes, appreciates, and supports that part of me, in and out of the bedroom. I will do the same in kind.

Not for a night before you run back to your ex. Not for a week before your schedule gets "crazy." If your life is in shambles, stay away from me. I have learned that if someone's life circumstances are inconsistent, most likely, so are they.

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If you're reading this, and you're a submissive with her shit together, good posture, and takes care of herself...I'm waiting for you. I have prepared, waited patiently, given freely, learned from my past experiences, and have the time + space to train and guide the perfect sub for me.

I will not judge you for your past or flaws. I will call you on your shit. I will not be a scapegoat, extra wallet, or emotional whipping post.

I will care for you during and after scenes. I will not accept inconsistency or illegal activity.

I am aiming for a dynamic where we both have our goals/careers/travel plans aligned. This will eventually lead to a 24/7 dynamic.

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While some may say the wait is unbearable. Just accept some of you may die alone. Especially if you're being lazy about your search and self-care.

I'm enjoying the quiet, but not the isolation. I'm over my phases of being on the hunt. I am actively searching for her. Hell, you may even know someone.

I want some coffee and then I'll hit the gym.

Have a good day.

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - I hope you do not take this as offence, I am just not sure you are ready. Your profile, as well as your previous posts state that you are poly, with "room for Monogamy" in special cases? What is special? Making someone think that they can "fix your poly" streak? for how long? 5 years, until you decide you want to include another. In this post, you speak very nice about wanting "her" that one other, but that person needs to be aware, that you have a mind that may one day change and want her to share you. Otherwise, this seems like a call for that submissive that 'wants a challenge' of changing someone's mind. I do not think that is the type of person you are looking for either, I could be very wrong. I just think you need to be more prevalent in what your relationship will be, this seems to be a call to a monogamous submissive, but for how long can she be confident you want the same things.

Maybe that is something you discuss in detail with that special person and not for people like me to see. I just have questions when I thought you were starting on your poly journey, and here you are.

3 years ago

TalentedOptimist(dom male){open} - Hello,

I'm open to the best-case scenario with the best-suited person/people for me. That could be monogamous. Could be poly. Clearly, we have different perspectives and experiences. I have never misled or blindsided someone into poly if this is what you are alluding to. Thanks for the good vibes though.

It's not that you could be wrong. You are. Every time I read something from you, it feels cynical and disrespectful. I would like that to stop.
Poly is a lifestyle choice that I have followed for over 15 years. Not just started, fell out, and now looking for someone to take up the challenge of fixing or modifying me to their tastes.

I was thinking about "her." And I have the right to do so. But now I just feel sickened and want to delete this entire thing. This isn't supportive or stimulating, it's degrading having to talk to you from those standpoints.

When I met someone who wanted only monogamy, I respected that, without ill intent to trick or mislead later.

You have a gift for making me feel disrespected and hostile. This is the second time I've had to say that.

Have a good day.

3 years ago

OraclePollon(sub female){NotYours} - Sorry you feel that way. I do not post on everything, the last one seems like forever ago. I would think it is obvious that I am not targeting you in any way. I only question things that do not align, when they show up in the public blogs list. I did not think that 2 comments in the last 2 months would be considered something that is being tracked and sends you into defense, instead of explanation. I will no longer comment on your blogs.

When we were speaking, back in April? I had no idea you were poly, so to say you don't mislead, okay, but you aren't open either. Maybe that is because you can do both, whatever your partner chooses, or that you weren't back then. That is why I commented on the last post, where you announced "I am Poly now". I asked, you answered, I went, okay, you are poly now. That happens, I am not condemning your choices. Now this, where you seem to have jumped back to Mono. You are saying you can be both, okay. Thank you for answering. I have all pieces of the puzzle and asked you the questions that you can be accountable to.

Have a good day.

3 years ago

Lion(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - I personally have never seen your profile, but to be honest your blog does suggest a monogamous relationship. The tone to which you speak of having a career, a house, your as they say shit together. These are all conclusive of the old adage of house with the little white picket fence, wife, 2 kids and a dog. I didn't know that you might be are interested in a poly type relationship before seeing the above comments and that is perfectly acceptable, no judgment here. But I will say that your blog tends to scream one on one, not I'm looking for two submissive's. It's just my observation, I applaud your getting your life together so you have the time to find what you're looking for. Best wishes in your search.

3 years ago

TalentedOptimist(dom male){open} - Point blank, I answered the questions and noted there was a better way to ask those questions.
Because I thought I was being held accountable? Not conversed with or opened up to. Accountable means a trial, which means there’s evidence, a process, a winner and loser. On my personal blog, with the premise of some secret 5 year plan to.....

Hey, you’re open to monagamy? Just like your profile said? But you’ve always wanted poly? Are you lying? Confused? You must not be ready. I’ll make sure to analyze and hold you accountable.

Voiced through the words of:
Asking a sub in 5 years to take the “challenge” to “fix” my poly “streak” since I’m not “ready” and this person isn’t who I’m looking for?

If my partner isn’t open to poly, she will tell me and we won’t do poly. If I’m not open to monogamy, I will tell my sub and she will walk out if that’s not for her. So I’m clarifying that
we different perspectives on what is available and what is viable is building futures with people. I respect that. I make the best with the best.

I got my house, car, harley on my own. And if you’re poly or monogamous, every grown man should have a house in my family. In my family specifically before this gets analyzed into my beliefs about real estate. Wouldn’t want anyone getting confused. Again.

It’s a blog/journal/thought writing post.
I don’t fit your label/box/method on how to think and act? That’s your issue
You believe I have ill intent? That’s your issue.
You think I contradict myself? I don’t see it that way. Poly isn’t an enemy, or a mode, switch, phase, “streak” or something to dabble in for only provocative reasons.

Accept that or move on to your next case detectives lol.

3 years ago

Lion(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - I agree with you in the aspect of what you want and what you desire, my last slave and I discussed bringing someone else into the relationship but it was agreed upon not to for fear of jealousy. I really couldn't care less which path you take, just be upfront and honest in the beginning. Best wishes for you and your endeavors. Be safe riding, to many on their phones people out there. 1999 Honda shadow spirt fully dressed.

3 years ago

TalentedOptimist(dom male){open} - My profile and blogs directly state that I am poly but open to monogamy. I can fully understand the need to verify and confirm the intentions behind such a vague and misleading statement. Coupled with this blog? Fully understandable.

As a side note: I stopped trying to engage with people or situations where decisions are made for fear of jealousy, paranoia or dissatisfaction. Helped cut down on deeper levels of incompatibility and keep my household stable. Hope this helps.

I like Hondas for the stability and control but they are too quiet for me. I ride a 2010 Harley Wide Glide. God Bless.

3 years ago

B L O N D I E(sub female) - I agree with you that poly and mono aren't black and white like pregnant and not-pregnant. I'm poly and my dominant is mono. I approach it from the mindset that I would need his permission before playing with someone else. He'll never give that permission, but that's the way I resolve it in my own mind. I see it working the other way, too where the poly dominant wants to loan out his sub or play with another but refrains to respect her hard limit or to preserve her trust. I see poly as fully consistent with a primary relationship with or without extras as long as both are comfortable with that. Keep your chin up and don't compromise on you. Ignore the haters. You're perfect as you are and your One will understand and welcome you. Peace.

3 years ago

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