Disclaimer: This is my personal interpretation of the quotes below, along with my own reflections on the Gorean lifestyle. Please note that my perspective is shaped by my experiences, and I understand that others may have different views.
As a member of the Gorean lifestyle community, I’ve often found myself frustrated by the rigid interpretations that dominate conversations around gender roles within our culture. There seems to be a prevailing notion that Gor is exclusively about traditional gender roles, but this perspective overlooks a significant part of Gorean lore that embraces diversity. It is disheartening to witness so many individuals dismissing the rich diversity of relationships present in the source material, especially when it comes to homosexuality.
Take, for example, the Waniyanpi. These characters are more than just a footnote in Gor’s extensive narrative. They represent a culture where same-sex relationships exist, highlighting that love can transcend gender boundaries. The Waniyanpi, while less frequently discussed, are a cornerstone of the Gorean universe that exemplifies the complexities of desire and loyalty irrespective of societal norms. Their existence challenges the oversimplified, binary thinking that is so prevalent in discussions about gender roles in Gor.
We cannot ignore the subtle yet profound relationship between Appanius and Milo in the City of Ar. While some choose to interpret their bond strictly within the confines of Master and slave dynamics, evidence points to a deeper connection. One that hints at romantic feelings beyond mere ownership. This relationship is a testament to the fact that the Gorean narrative does not exclusively support a single mode of interaction. Just because these relationships are implied rather than explicitly stated does not grant us the liberty to erase them from our understanding of what it means to be Gorean.
The danger lies in holding onto a version of Gor that sounds remarkably like a rigid doctrine, a "bible" of sorts that dictates behavior in a way that is far too simplistic. Literature is meant to be interpreted, explored, and discussed. Reducing the characters and their relationships to stereotypes undermines the very essence of storytelling. To assert that the majority of the novels automatically create strict gender roles negates the rich diversity of experiences, challenges, and relationships found throughout the narrative.
One of the most compelling aspects of the Gorean lifestyle is its inherent capacity for varied interpretations. An individual’s journey into Gorean philosophy should be fueled by personal exploration of the texts rather than a blind adherence to traditional norms. Instead of feeling confined to a singular narrative, we should celebrate the multiplicity of relationships that shape our community.
It is high time we encourage open discussions about the existence of homosexual relationships in Gor, acknowledging their significance and allowing them to coexist alongside traditional dynamics. Our goal should not be the endorsement of any singular way of living but rather the inclusion of all interpretations that enrich our understanding of what it means to be Gorean.
Let us push beyond the confines of traditional gender roles and recognize the beautiful complexity of relationships depicted in the Gorean world. We owe it to ourselves, and to the myriad experiences of those who embrace this lifestyle, to expand our conversations and welcome every facet of love that exists within those pages. Only then can we truly embody the spirit of Gor in its entirety.
Book Quotes and References
It is not clear, historically, whether the values of slaves were imposed on the Waniyanpi by their masters, or whether the Waniyanpi invented their ethos to dignify and ennoble their own weakness. It may be mentioned that, interestingly, since the Waniyanpi repudiate nature, and natural relationships, that there is, in the compounds, an unusual incidence of homosexuality, both of the male and female varieties. This is perhaps a natural enough development considering the conditioned obstacles placed in the way of more usual relationships. It also fits in better with the values of Sameness.
Bood Brothers of Gor – Page 155
“Appanius and Milo must be on intimate terms,” I said.
“Yes,” she said. “The master treats him almost as though he might be a free man. They discuss matters of business and the theater. Even in the great hall, at the common suppers, he has Milo above the salt and at his right hand.”
Magicians of Gor Book 25 – Page 310
“At any rate,” I said, “it seems they have been seeing one another.”
“It cannot be!” he said.
“Your slave, it seems, has been carrying on a shameless affair with her.”
“That cannot be,” he said.
“I have seen him,” I said. “He is a big, handsome fellow. Why could it not be?”
“He would not betray me!” he said. Magicians of Gor Book 25 Page 418
“My Milo, my Milo!” wept Appanius, looking down at the much-beaten slave. “The most beautiful slave in Ar! My beloved slave!
“My beloved Milo!”
“He has betrayed you,” said one of the retainers.
“How could you do it?” asked Appanius. “Have I not been good to you? Have I not been kind? Have you wanted for anything?
“Have I not given you everything!” Magicians of Gor Book 25 Page 426
“So, Milo,” said Appanius, “you would make of me a laughing stock?”
“No, Master,” said the slave.
“One can well imagine him laughing about how he betrayed you with a woman,” said one of the retainers. Magicians of Gor Book 25 Page 427