What's a belief you once held strongly that you've since changed your mind about?
TLDR: It is not my responsibility to remind my Masters. I once believed it was my duty as their slave, but in truth, they never asked for such an act of service.
For a long time I held a belief that reminding my Masters of their responsibilities, appointments, calendar events, bills, and even grocery lists. Was an essential part of my role. I viewed this behavior as an act of service, an expression of my devotion. In my mind, the more attentive I was to their needs, the better submissive I would be. However, this belief has shifted dramatically, and I can confidently say that the transition has been both enlightening and pivotal in my dynamic with them.
Initially my incessant reminders came from a genuine desire to support my Masters. I felt a sense of pride in how well I anticipated their needs. If they asked for help managing their schedules, I believed it was my duty to ensure nothing slipped through the cracks. I was the one keeping everything organized, and I thought that made me an exceptional slave. I derived a sense of identity and value from this role, but I soon discovered it was not as admirable as I had thought.
When friends in the M/s community observed my dynamic, they provided me with an unexpected piece of advice. I needed to stop reminding my Masters of everything, especially things they had not specifically asked me to take charge of. Their insight was a revelation. I was not only overstepping my boundaries, but I was also inadvertently undermining my Masters’ autonomy. By constantly playing the role of the champion of reminders, I was mothering them rather than serving them, and in the process, I was limiting their growth as Dominants.
This perspective shift was not easy at first. Letting go of my reminders felt counterintuitive to my caregiving nature. I worried I would be seen as neglectful or uninterested in their well being. However, as I began to implement this change, an unexpected sense of relief washed over me. As my reminders faded, I found space to embrace my identity as a slave in a new and refreshing way.
With the removal of my constant reminders, my Masters began to take more responsibility for their own schedules and tasks. I watched as they confidently navigated their lives without my input, and I realized how crucial this was for their development. They stumbled, they forgot things, and they faced challenges. All of which are essential components of personal growth. Instead of being the safety net, I now allowed them room for failure and success, serving to empower them instead of coddling them.
As I have embraced this new belief, I feel more connected to my slave role than ever before. No longer burdened by the need to remind my Masters. I find joy in fulfilling my duties where asked and focusing on the aspects of submission that align with their commands. This evolution has not only strengthened our dynamic but has also cultivated a healthier relationship built on mutual respect and growth.
In hindsight, shifting my belief from enabling dependency to fostering independence has transformed my understanding of service. It is indeed empowering to step back and let my Masters grow. I’ve learned that true service involves supporting their journey rather than controlling the outcomes. A realization that has deepened the bonds of our relationship and allowed me to thrive in my role.
So what is a belief you had that shifted and changed the way you think?