So I was listening to an old video by Rope Aficionado. I will be attending his up coming discussion/class: Truth and Torment: Consensual Interrogation with SirGuy
I am huge into mind fucking games.
Anyways he was interviewing someone in his video and one thing they were discussing and talking about were rules for his slave girl and why one in particular applies. It is a rule I pretty much have as well. So it fascinated me.
During my years in this lifestyle I have come across so many men who lack respect and decency for other Dominants. One of them for a long time had been my friend until I saw his true colors. Recently I had one Dom say, I refuse to talk to other Doms I only talk to submissives. Gross!!!
So the Dom in this video was saying when he is at a convention or a local Dungeon or play party he has rules for his submissive. Like no talking to Doms without permission. No giving out hugs to people without permission.
His Sub, HIS Rules.
Anyways one time he was confronted by someone asking him why he does this? Was he insecure? He came back and said No. He is not insecure. It has nothing to do with that. He said it has everything to do with being included with his relationship and submissive dynamic. He said it also reinforces his authority and power exchange with his submissive.
I have rules like this for the most part. I am allowed to message other Dominants. They are permitted to contact and talk to me. I have complete transparency with my Dominants. The moment someone messages me, I tell my Masters. Dom or sub I get excited and go, my Master so and so is messaging me.
My rule starts when they want to add me or move conversation to discord. Which is the main chatting platform I use due to its accessibility for my blindness.
You would NOT believe how many times I hear that my rules are bullshit. That I am my own person and I should be able to talk to and add whoever I want whenever I want. Now granted if I cared to do relationships the way these new generations do, I would likely agree, however I dont. I dont have five guys in my back pocket of DMs stringing them along just in case my current relationship doesnt go the way I want.
Relationships take work, and I am here for a real connection and dedication.
My submission is NOT a joke. It is NOT a game for me. It is not something I just put on in the bedroom to get my kinky orgasms. It is my life. I am submissive by nature. I am passionate about my loyal and loving servitude.
So not many people know about the rule that I have and where I got it from. It was NOT demanded of me by my Dominants. It was not of their own creation.
When we negotiated our contract and rules and expectations etc. I Begged them to implement this rule and enforce it. They have NEVER told me who I could and could not be friends with unless that person is abusive or emotionally harmful. Even so this was something I wanted and anyone arguing over this rule takes away my consent and my agency.
and for what? So you can send me a dick pic?
I even asked one of my Masters, why he actually likes having this rule in place and without missing a beat he said because it makes him feel as though he as more control over me and it affords him the opportunity to protect me.
I love these two men of mine so fucking much!!!
So we as submissives never really fully understand why our Doms do anything. We can ask them and sometimes they might answer but not always. Sometimes we get that, Because I said so. Which if you are like me....fucking sucks but Meh, they are the Dominants and we are their property.
Yummy word, Property.
So for me my rules are a form of respect. You dont have to become best friends with my Dominants,, even though i think you should. They are amazing fucking people and you are missing out. However you do have to accept and respect the rules they set forth for me.
You dont have to like my rules but you have to remember this is MY Dynamic with MY Dominants and I chose them, just as much as they chose me, and I am THEIR slave girl. They protect my heart, body, mind and soul.
They do not give me the rules they have given me because they are insecure. They gave them to me to control me. They gave them to me because I gave them my control. I begged them for structure, guidance, love and protection.
In return they trust me to be obedient, pleasing, and respectful.
I want my Masters included in my life, and in this dynamic with me. If that means you have to go an extra step to ask them to add me on Discord, then why is that so difficult? If you have to wait a day for me to have a discussion to ask them if its okay for me to add you, why is that so difficult?
Arent you a Dominant? Dont you understand the dynamic between a Dominant and a submissive? Wouldnt you expect your own submissive/slave to be obedient to you and follow your rules?
Then respect mine!!!
