When people meet me at work, I am assertive. I say no. I am often labeled a pit bull or a bitch. My relationships with my clients are very intimate. My position often puts me in a place where I become their confidant. I would say about 50% of my clients have met my children. They are in the office more than I would like to admit.
For the last 10 days, I have had a new client I have been working with. He is very direct and appreciates immediate responses. We have spoken on the phone numerous times at length. I will admit that I was struggling with the phone conversations. I have a really busy office, I'm constantly interrupted and I have been struggling to meet all of my obligations. So today, this client was at my office before 9am. I was receiving text messages from my assistant "hurry up, he's here and has questions". Today, I was running late. My daughter slept less than 2 hours last night. That means I slept less than one hour. This means that a tortoise is moving faster than me. This also means that I haven't gotten my head right for work today (something I have to do to survive work).
Most of my interactions can be shortened in to 30 minutes. This interaction was 3 hours long! We had talked about a lot of things. But I had stated something like, I'm not typically the aggressive one. Then BAM! He went off on this tangent of always being a Dominant, has been since school. He starts using the words submit and submissive in my office. Unconscious things happened. One, I lowered my head (didn't even recognize it). Two, my hands were placed on my thighs, palms up. Three, I became all flushed and very attentive to my surroundings.
So....lately I have felt like I wasn't very submissive. That I have misread all of my behavior, needs and desires. But you know, I think I'm right on target. And that feels pretty good.
watch him be on this site....