Anchored Together

Strength without direction is chaos.
Authority without responsibility is abuse.

The real value of leadership is not just providing safety and a space for softness; it’s providing a horizon worth moving towards.

This document outlines my North Star, my core values and my long-term goals.

My compass

• Trust: Trust is the foundation of any healthy relationship and in particular when any level of power exchange is in the mix. Trust is reliability and it is safety.
• Love: A deep emotional connection is a necessity for me with my partner. I need romance that evolves over time. Love is not just romantic but also the foundation of the family I want to build.
• Humility: Admitting mistakes, growing and learning starts with humility. It’s a quality I admire in a submissive but also something I aspire to embody. I am not perfect but I am always improving.
• Curiosity: I love a curious and agile mind. It will make us stay young together through all our joint learning and exploration.
• Passion: I direct my life with intention and move myself so that I am always aligned with my passions. I put everything I’ve got into my relationship and my work.
• Strength and resilience: Strength is both physical and mental and both provide resilience for both myself and my partner. It means staying calm under stress and thinking clearly.
• Leadership and Responsibility: This means taking the initiative, carrying the weight, being accountable and providing guidance.

Where I am heading

• A deep emotional connection: Everything starts with building an emotional connection with my partner. This connection is the foundation for everything my partner and I will have together, including our rituals, love and a future family. Without it, trust can feel hollow, rituals can become mechanical, and even love risks becoming surface-level. That bond is what transforms guidance into intimacy, care into devotion, and discipline into growth. It is what allows both of us to feel secure enough to be fully ourselves while still surrendering to the roles we’ve chosen.
• Build a family: I have a deep paternal instinct and a need to let our love become the foundation for a new generation. I want the love and structure in our home to be the anchor for children who grow up knowing they are safe, guided, and unconditionally loved, not in the absence of challenges, but through and with them. I want to build a family where trust and affection are constant, where curiosity is encouraged, and where resilience is passed down by example. For me, fatherhood isn’t just about being there for the highs, but about consistency through the struggles, and the absolutely mundane. I want to raise children who experiences strength expressed with tenderness, who learn humility through guidance, and who feel the passion and stability of parents who never waver in their commitment to each other.
• Professional growth: While my highest priority will always be at home and in my personal relationships, I have a parallel need to keep growing professionally. My work requires solving complex problems, and I thrive in spaces where abstract thinking, creativity, and empathy come together. Leadership in my career feeds my ability to lead at home… they are two expressions of the same instinct.
• Health: To sustain all of this for decades to come, I need a strong and healthy body and mind. Daily exercise, strength training, a healthy diet, and proactive mental health support are essential and how I stay resilient. They ensure that I can carry my responsibilities fully and model vitality for both my family and my teams.

I want to leave behind a legacy in the people I interact with through my leadership in love, family and in work. I want people to be left with trust, passion and curiosity. Everything I have covered above, and more, is what gives my North Star light and lets it keep shining. This is the horizon I am moving towards and the life I am building.