So you’ve finally found the role you identify with.. Now what?
Don’t worry I’ve got you covered!
Let’s dive into the sub role and how to attract a corresponding partner. No sub is the same just like every Goddess. It is important that the person you choose not only embodies what you are looking for kink wise but also mentally.
subs/slaves:
To attract the partner you want you will need to come correct and make a great first impression. No matter the nature of your relationship ( fwb, monogamous, or simply a play partner) how you approach and address them will always play a key role.
How do I address them in a respectful way that will result in a response?
Step 1: Once you see a Domme/Dom has caught your attention, you will need to address them in their proper role. This can be located in their bio online or as “ Miss” or “Sir” until it is clarified. I cannot tell you how many times I have refused to respond to a message from a sub because he did not address me respectfully and with authority. “ Baby” “ sweetheart” and other words of endearment are a BIG NO unless stated by the Dom. Read your potential Dom/ Goddess’ bio thoroughly before hand. Make sure you have a good idea of who they are and what they seek instead of wasting their time.
Step 2: Properly introduce yourself. Believe it or not us Doms do want to know who we are dealing with. This helps properly assess if we are a match. Age, sex and location is a good place to start as well as marital status. Lack of detail can be seen as a sign or inconsistency and lack of effort.
A lot of subs tend to want to remain anonymous. And while discretion is very important to most, it is vital that you are being transparent about who you are. If you are uncomfortable showing yourself right away, give a detailed description of who you are and what you look like. There is no guarantee that a Dom will take you on without a physical photo but it will help them make a decision on it.
***Speaking of photos.. DO NOT for any reason send an unsolicited picture of your genitalia or butthole for any reason in an opening message. Matter of fact, don’t ever send one until you are instructed to do so. It is tacky, tasteless and shows a lack of discipline.***
Step 3: Be upfront about why you are contacting a Dom and exactly what you are looking for. When a Dom has a clear sense of what you’re looking for they will be able to decipher if they are interested in what you have to offer. I personally hate being messaged and approached with casual talk and no sense or direction in a message.
If you are a service slave looking to be used, State that. If you are a sex sub looking to be submissive in bed, state that. If you a a humiliation sub seeking chastity and verbal or physical degradation, state that. Be sure to include how your need to serve can benefit your Dom.
(Ex: “ I would love to serve at your feet and handle any daily tasks you see fit for me”)
While these steps do not guarantee you will snag the Goddess you want it will help train you in how to approach and receive a response. Remember that there is someone out there that is your perfect kink match.
What is your biggest ick when talking to a Dom or sub?
