I haven’t slept and am now running on over 24hrs without sleep, with no rest in sight. I had a stall at a market yesterday for my business, it didn’t go as well I had hoped. It did though; make me think, give me ideas, see what I could improve. Looking at what other traders did, looking for ways to stand out, listening to feedback from others. I have been up all night designing new labelling for some of my items, looking up new recipes, tweaking others, gathering ideas but remaining true to my brand, to what I am trying to create.The heart of my small business.
So what does this have to do with anything in this world? Translate this into the world of dominance and submission, the learning about each other, the likes and dislikes, learning from others by having conversations, interacting in this world, reading and listening. I’ve blogged about this before, yet it is a conversation I return to. The core of who I am doesn’t change, I respect you, I expect respect in return, if it is not given then I will walk away. I know who I am yet am constantly tweaking and refining. What does my sub need? What do I need? What do we need? The fascinating characters you meet along the way, you pick and choose what you want from them. Some are in your life for a short while and have a profound effect or you have a profound effect on them; either good, bad or maybe indifferent. Yesterday I learnt from others by both what they did and didn’t do, I learnt what makes my small business unique and what i know I will continue to stay true to.
It is the same for me as a person, I engage, I flirt, I watch, I learn, I give and receive, I take and am given to. Dominance and submission are both about learning and growing, staying true to who you are but being happy to explore, learning and knowing what you are willing to change and that which you will hold close. Whilst shaping a sub into true submission, they too are shaping you, the people you meet along the way, they can too if you wish or not if you don’t.
Enjoy the beginning, don’t lose out to the headiness or what the crowd is doing. I for one will continue my journey and look forward to meeting some of you along the way.