DUPED
I am writing this so that I can get it all out of my system and move on.
The Dom I just spent 6 months with has turned out to be a liar. I think the only thing he told me that was true was is first name. When he contacted me back in August I was flattered. Here was a young guy contacting me and asking if I wanted to be his sub. If I had been more experienced I would have seen the red flags. We moved into sexting & phone sex way too fast. He’d drop out in the middle of conversations and never come back, he even ghosted me and even though I wrote a forum entry about the ghosting I apologized when he came back and had the excuse that he had been ill. All through our relationship he would reassure me that he wanted me, that he “chose me”. Now with the age difference and the fact that we live several states apart I realized that sooner or later he would want a sub that was actually there with him. I was prepared for that conversation, but it never came. On January 17th he just stopped communicating. I tried to contact him thru the Cage site many times but no reply. I finally called the phone number he had registered in an outside app we used for calls. The voice on the message was his but the last name he used wasn’t the one he gave me. I left a message and hung up. When I hadn’t heard back in a few hours I called again. The call rang twice and disconnected. I tried again, same thing. So I looked up the phone number on an internet site and got a profile that had a lot of the details that he did tell me, except the age was way older, older than me. But there was the name of his son, there was work history that sounded like what he told me he did, there were old addresses in states he said he had lived in. This was him. And since those call disconnected I assumed he realized I had found out about his deceit. I sent one last message telling him I knew and expressing my disappointment that he was such a shitty human. Oddly, this morning, I woke up feeling refreshed. I’m not angry, just disappointed in him as a human being.
So what have I learned? I will spend a lot of time getting to know the next Dom I consider before anything happens. I will vet them and do a background check, and they are free to do the same on me. If they are not OK with this then they are not right for me. I will not allow myself to be blinded but nice words and empty promises ever again.
Now I know I can’t list his Cage name or his real name, here on the site but I will say this.
Do not trust a Dom using a blue wolf as an avatar
Do not trust a Dom that says he has something called a HSP soul
Do not trust a Dom that talks about the blue wolf being his spirit animal
And lastly do not trust a Dom that says he is just back to the scene after taking time to mourn the loss of his sub.
All of these things might be true, I have no way of knowing.
NOTE: he has deleted all the data except the basics from his profile. If anyone needs/wants to know who he is message me privately.