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3 years ago. June 23, 2020 at 11:44 AM

"I will not be your Dom"

Yes, this was part of an interchange I had here the other day. And while not an unreasonable thing to say (can't be everyone's little subbiest sub that ever did sub, now can I? 😂😂), It DID catch my attention.

But why? I'm sure glad you asked 😉

The reason it stuck out to me was simply that in my own mind I wasn't anywhere near having a conversation with the other party about THAT!

Were we conversing? Clearly. 

Were we finding out more about each other? Well, obviously, Sherlock!

Through conversations one can easily learn a great deal about someone else...their likes, dislikes, their biases and prejudices (we all have them), things that make them smile, their taste in songs, how they view themselves and the world they live in, etc...but again, my purposes in the conversation were not simply to gnab myself a Dom.

However, I was reminded of something. I have a sparkly personality (I know, I know... shocker!) And I try to be nice to everyone. But just because I strike up a conversation with you DOES NOT mean I am trying to wear your collar. If that was the case, I would likely have made my rounds through the crowds of Domliest Dom types and their Velcro collars. My friendliness should not be assumed as flirtiness. (Yes, even on a kink website!) 

Simply put, I am a Sparkly Princess making connections without assuming. One way I learn and grow is through interacting with others.  Collars and Doms and Subs and such should take some time. 

  And while I'm on the topic of assuming-dont assume that because I'm a sub means I will look like "Barbie"-my curves and my body are mine. I realize I may be less (well, ummm...more) than what you would hope for, no worries. I don't want to be everyone's cuppa. But, if you could kindly refrain from making negative and derogatory comments that cut- it would be most appreciated. 💖

 

 

Mr E​(dom male) - I think that sometimes the fine art of politeness, manners, and kind engagement can give people the impression we are interested instead of the reality that we are merely convivial. I do wince when it happens, but it comes with the territory.
3 years ago
Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - You ARE the sparkliest of Sparkly Princesses. And you're fucking beautiful inside and out!

To those who say to you "I will not be your Dom"? They are right! Because they DONT QUALIFY... You will only accept a collar from the Prince who celebrates YOU and ALL your sparkliness and beauty! ❤️
3 years ago
Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - OK!!! Where's my Virtual Slap button?!! I hope you told him YOU wouldn't be his sub and sh*t some sparkles on him! Apparently today I woke up on the wrong side of the bed and not in the mood for ignoramuses. The nerve of some people to make such assumptions. Ugghhh!!!

Sparkle away and shine like the beautiful gem you are!!!
3 years ago
Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne} - Oh my goodness.....

"Shit some sparkles on them"

Is the NEW

Kill em with kindness!!!

Love it ❤️
3 years ago
Lion​(dom male){Hazel Eyes} - I just hope you told him that you are way to fucking good for a half ass dip shit like him. Big Hug and sparkle so much it blinds the dumb asses.
3 years ago
HGB​(sub female){Scottish M} - You made my brain want to look. Lol. Looked up what barbie would look like real life, Bahahahahaha. Yah I'll keep my figure and shoe size.
3 years ago
Bunnie - It’s a difficult thing when conversing with someone in the beginning. So many potential land mines.

How soon is the right time to tell someone you’re newly conversing with that there’s no potential for more? It’s a fine line between coming off as being presumptuous, and being fair in communicating early enough that they know straight away there’s no option for deeper connections... especially so that they know it’s not personal. I kind of respect his honesty. I too am a “put the important things on the table early” kind of person. If it comes across as assuming, so be it... I’d much rather that than the potential other.
3 years ago
HisHunnyBun​(sub female){Taken} - BS like this is why I put two things at the top of my profile

•fully read profile
•if I liked your profile, it means I see you as a potential friend and possibly a potential dom.

If they still think I'm only conversing with them to have them as my dom then I know they actually didn't read my profile.
3 years ago

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