"I will not be your Dom"
Yes, this was part of an interchange I had here the other day. And while not an unreasonable thing to say (can't be everyone's little subbiest sub that ever did sub, now can I? 😂😂), It DID catch my attention.
But why? I'm sure glad you asked 😉
The reason it stuck out to me was simply that in my own mind I wasn't anywhere near having a conversation with the other party about THAT!
Were we conversing? Clearly.
Were we finding out more about each other? Well, obviously, Sherlock!
Through conversations one can easily learn a great deal about someone else...their likes, dislikes, their biases and prejudices (we all have them), things that make them smile, their taste in songs, how they view themselves and the world they live in, etc...but again, my purposes in the conversation were not simply to gnab myself a Dom.
However, I was reminded of something. I have a sparkly personality (I know, I know... shocker!) And I try to be nice to everyone. But just because I strike up a conversation with you DOES NOT mean I am trying to wear your collar. If that was the case, I would likely have made my rounds through the crowds of Domliest Dom types and their Velcro collars. My friendliness should not be assumed as flirtiness. (Yes, even on a kink website!)
Simply put, I am a Sparkly Princess making connections without assuming. One way I learn and grow is through interacting with others. Collars and Doms and Subs and such should take some time.
And while I'm on the topic of assuming-dont assume that because I'm a sub means I will look like "Barbie"-my curves and my body are mine. I realize I may be less (well, ummm...more) than what you would hope for, no worries. I don't want to be everyone's cuppa. But, if you could kindly refrain from making negative and derogatory comments that cut- it would be most appreciated. 💖
