Over the years of experiencing different styles and types of BDSM, these are the things that are consistent with me. The things that give me chills, whether bad or good…
Things that I love with all my heart
- That look your Dom gives you from across a room that makes you weak, and the way you always know what it means.
- Those trigger words that your Dom uses to communicate so many things in small ways.
- Kneeling in your designated place. This place sometimes feels like the safest place in the world. Sometimes, I swear I could live there.
- Aftercare. Knowing that the soul who just hurt you with his hands can now caress you with those same hands – knowing that the one who hurt you with words can now speak gentle truths that lift you right back up.
- When your Dom asks “Who do you belong to?” Dadgum!
- Being made to look him in the eyes.
Things that get to me – in that oh so effective way
- Disappointment. I’d guess that many of us feel this way.
- Standing in the corner. Oof! That is NOT something that I enjoy, but my body betrays me every time and tells me otherwise! But this is seriously still an effective punishment.
- Lectures. Ouch ouch ouch! My body starts shaking just thinking about it!
- Being made to look him in the eyes.
This obviously isn’t an extensive list, and I love many things! Pain, humiliation, etc., etc., but these are the things that my mind always go back to when I’m questioning the lifestyle, or my submission, or something like that. And I am highly questioning my submission tonight. Ya know those days where you feel like shit for a sub? Yeah, it happens