“People become masochistic as a way of regulating their desire to sexually dominate others. The desire to submit, on the other hand arises from guilt feelings over the desire to dominate” -Freud
Alright Freud my man, while I do respect several of your theories, this is one that I just cannot get behind. Freudian therapists today still believe in this, and I’m not sure why since we have an understanding of most of the science behind masochism…
Pain releases endorphins and hormones – endorphins and hormones act as painkillers – so in essence, pain + endorphins = no pain because you get very high on the endorphins. Plus all the other good stuff that goes with it… the relaxation, the sleepiness, the letting go, the surrender, the aftercare… yep, good stuff. It almost sounds like an addiction. I’ll definitely have to look into that someday! But obviously not everyone is like this, so while we might understand the science there, there is still no real understanding of why it’s such a turn on – or why some people like it and others don’t. Please don’t make me go back to Freud’s theory. He cannot be right!
I’ve been super craving pain lately. Intense scenes. More than I feel like I can handle. And I’m not entirely sure why.
I guess because it both calms me down and makes me feel no pain. This was pointed out to me once before. I still remember his soft quiet voice asking, “That calms you down doesn’t it?” and I was embarrassed to answer with a “yes” because I’m not sure if that was correct or not. But there isn’t really a correct answer, is there?
It’s interesting because here lately, my body is in pain a lot all by itself. After a few doctors appointments and some tests, I still have no answer for this pain, but I’m obviously not liking it. However, if you intensify it with an awesome sadistic scene, it all goes away and I feel great! That may be a reason that I’m craving some pain right now, but I wonder what my reason was a month ago, or a year ago, or ten years ago, or 20 years ago? Dammit, Freud, I don’t have a desire to dominate!!
In the last scene I had, after all was said and done, I felt more relaxed and pain free than I have in a long time. For me, it’s like getting a massage. That sounds so weird! You may be right, I may be crazy, but it just may be a lunatic you’re looking for. Bat shit passionate! Crazy Type A personalities... I want that massage.
If you’re a masochist, or don’t consider yourself to be a masochist but like that bit o pain that can come with a scene, why do you think you do? What does it do for you?
And what about sadists? What does it do for you? So many unanswered questions...
This whole blog barely made sense to me, so have fun with it. Find the lyric and you too can be the owner of a brand new shiny quarter.
